EmeraldFrog23 Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 I've had this problem for a long time and I'd like to see what I'm doing wrong so I can break it. I'm a shy person but for the most part do not have serious issues conversing with people when I am one on one with them. The difficulties come when that person joins in a group. I'm often the one to be shut out and left speechless with not a single thing to say. This is what often happens: 1.) I'm out to lunch with my co-workers. They start engaging in small talk then suddenly the conversation switches to something I'm not very well versed in such as talk about sports that I do not follow (like football teams that are not in my favorite team's conference) or who is going to win the Heisman trophy this year. 2.) I'm out with a friend that works elsewhere. We go out with her friends/co-workers and then the conversation switches to talk about their workplace which I have nothing to add to since I don't work with them. And it's not like they're intentionally trying to shut me out. In most of these instances, they usually ask me why I'm being so quiet. Does anyone else have difficulties with this? How do you get the conversation "back in your court" again? In the past I've gotten the conversation back in my favor by saying something off-topic or outrageous. Sometimes it works and I get a few laughs but other times it backfires and they go right back to their previous conversations. Any advice from very well-versed outgoing people that have no difficulties in the art of conversation? Link to comment
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