flyerfan6656 Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 so last time i talked to my ex she was still confused..i think she is messing with another guy, but idk........idk anything anymore...before she left my house she told me that she wanted to see a movie..i said ok..see u this week..we havent talked for 5 days...im kinda happy, because i have been wanting to go NC, so that she can figure things out, and so i can figure things out..... when it comes to NC, is it best to just leave, or is it better to tell an ex that you are leaving?..... Link to comment
sonypirates Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 Depends on the situation. I would say going complete NC after you agree to seeing a movie is rather bogus though. Link to comment
loulou37 Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 so last time i talked to my ex she was still confused..i think she is messing with another guy, but idk........idk anything anymore...before she left my house she told me that she wanted to see a movie..i said ok..see u this week..we havent talked for 5 days...im kinda happy, because i have been wanting to go NC, so that she can figure things out, and so i can figure things out..... when it comes to NC, is it best to just leave, or is it better to tell an ex that you are leaving?..... You just leave it, you don't need to tell her anything, you're broke up now, you have no need to contact her anymore. loulou x Link to comment
loulou37 Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 If she's messing with another guy why do you want her? loulou x Link to comment
flyerfan6656 Posted November 10, 2011 Author Share Posted November 10, 2011 If she's messing with another guy why do you want her? loulou x i never said i wanted her Link to comment
loulou37 Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 i never said i wanted her of course you do or why would you be thinking about her n meeting her etc? and going NC so you can figure things out.... Link to comment
TomboyMS Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 i never said i wanted her So why are you posting in getting back together? Link to comment
flyerfan6656 Posted November 10, 2011 Author Share Posted November 10, 2011 of course you do or why would you be thinking about her n meeting her etc? and going NC so you can figure things out.... well u missed the part where i said im happy about going NC, and shes the one that offered to see the movie, she came over saturday, and its thursday..we havent talked since, so its like...okk?? i guess NC? lol Link to comment
flyerfan6656 Posted November 10, 2011 Author Share Posted November 10, 2011 So why are you posting in getting back together? do i want her right now... NO...in the end?..time will tell Link to comment
loulou37 Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 do i want her right now... NO...in the end?..time will tell If my ex was with someone now right after we had broken up, i could never get back with him, it would turn me right off... it would make a total farce of our relationship. loulou x Link to comment
flyerfan6656 Posted November 10, 2011 Author Share Posted November 10, 2011 If my ex was with someone now right after we had broken up, i could never get back with him, it would turn me right off... it would make a total farce of our relationship. loulou x well we have been broken up for like 7 months now Link to comment
loulou37 Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 have you been in contact all of this time? loulou x Link to comment
flyerfan6656 Posted November 11, 2011 Author Share Posted November 11, 2011 have you been in contact all of this time? loulou x pretty much..longest we have gone is 16 days NC, but everytime i break away..she comes back Link to comment
bdbmwer Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 personaLLY given that your ex contacts you. i would announce nc and state your reason it makes you seem in control. and as ive just learned unnanounced NC if you truly stick to it and ignore your esx can come off the wrong way Link to comment
raton44 Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 personaLLY given that your ex contacts you. i would announce nc and state your reason it makes you seem in control. and as ive just learned unnanounced NC if you truly stick to it and ignore your esx can come off the wrong way agreed. If your ex is contacting you, and you just keep ignoring them, I really feel it looks like you're just being spiteful. In this situation it's prob best to tell her you don't wish to have contact at this time as you're broken up and focusing on yourself...or something along those lines. Many people on here disagree, but personally, I would announce NC in a situation like this Link to comment
flyerfan6656 Posted November 11, 2011 Author Share Posted November 11, 2011 agreed. If your ex is contacting you, and you just keep ignoring them, I really feel it looks like you're just being spiteful. In this situation it's prob best to tell her you don't wish to have contact at this time as you're broken up and focusing on yourself...or something along those lines. Many people on here disagree, but personally, I would announce NC in a situation like this *update*.. so my ex just txted me and was like..." hi my name is stef, how are you".. i say..." smh".. she says "why are you shaking your had?".. i say.. " because you dont need to reintroduce yourself, i already kno who you are, wait i take that back, i thought i knew who u were, your on some other S$3%t"..she goes.."whats your problem".. i go.." YOU, im soo over this" so goes "where did this come about?".. i go " Saturday after you left my house".. she goes "ok"... im like.. why dont you wanna lose me, shes like, because you mean a lot to me.. then i asked does she see herself with me again..she says yea..i say how strong is that yea..she goes ive encounterned a lot of boys over the months, and the outcome has always been the same..i go running back to you, i was like whats the real reason you come back, and shes like..no matter where i go at night, when i go home and get in bed all i do it think about you....... how should i take this Link to comment
raton44 Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 how long have you been BU? Is she seeing anyone now? Have you met face to face since the BU? Link to comment
raton44 Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 ok, I saw it above, 7 months..Ugh! I dunno really...I guess I would see if she wants to get together sometime soon. If she doesn't then back to NC. I suppose you might have to go out on a limb if you want to get things going. If she says no to getting together then you know she's not serious and/ or ready to get back together. She just keeps jerking you around and I think you need to figure out once in for all what the hell she wants. She needs to put up or shut up...but I wouldn't be giving her ultimatums here either. Try to get together and see how it goes...that's my advice based upon what little I know about your situation Link to comment
flyerfan6656 Posted November 11, 2011 Author Share Posted November 11, 2011 ok, I saw it above, 7 months..Ugh! I dunno really...I guess I would see if she wants to get together sometime soon. If she doesn't then back to NC. I suppose you might have to go out on a limb if you want to get things going. If she says no to getting together then you know she's not serious and/ or ready to get back together. She just keeps jerking you around and I think you need to figure out once in for all what the hell she wants. She needs to put up or shut up...but I wouldn't be giving her ultimatums here either. Try to get together and see how it goes...that's my advice based upon what little I know about your situation so should i try to be her friend?.. we have seen each other on an off for 7 months..she came over on saturday night.... so take things slow? or just be like..look...together or not....... thanks btw.. Link to comment
sonypirates Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 First you need to figure out what you want from her. You already said you don't know what you want. Link to comment
raton44 Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 sorry..I didn't read the whole thread....well since you've been seeing eachother and she still hasn't decided what she wants it may be best to just announce NC for now bc you can't stick around for her confusion. It seems like this has been going on a while now and she needs to figure this out. I wouldn't give some big ultimatum, I guess I would just talk to her again about your situation and ask her what she wants at this time. If she's confused or doesn't want to get back together yet you need to give you both more space and time. This has just been going on for too long. She knows you are there kind of waiting in the wings, so maybe taking a step back agin would be best. But since you're in contact, if you go that route, you should announce NC and tell her it's for you. Just starting to ignore her is rude and might piss her off. It'd piss me off, although I have never strung along a guy like this, so maybe she deserves it! haha Link to comment
EgoJoe Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 NO! You're not even healed and this won't end well. Now I'm SMFH! You're wrapped, whipped and haven't even left denial so you can heal properly! Stop talking to her, who cares if she thinks you're spiteful, MAN THE HELL UP! Everytime you grow a backbone and don't talk to her look what she does. There is a causative pattern here. Stop making new threads. Read my reply in your other thread. Link to comment
raton44 Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 NO! You're not even healed and this won't end well. Now I'm SMFH! You're wrapped, whipped and haven't even left denial so you can heal properly! Stop talking to her, who cares if she thinks you're spiteful, MAN THE HELL UP! Everytime you grow a backbone and don't talk to her look what she does. There is a causative pattern here. Stop making new threads. Read my reply in your other thread. Ya, actually I agree with this. I wasn't really thinking about the full fact that she has just been toting you along for quite a while. Disappearing might just snap her head out of her ass. Either way, you win bc you're healing and you move on or she comes back down the road and it works out. Link to comment
flyerfan6656 Posted November 11, 2011 Author Share Posted November 11, 2011 your right..thanks ask her what its gonna be..if shes still confused ill go...for like the 13th time lol, but when u saw what she told me, do you think its BS, or is she really confused? Link to comment
sonypirates Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 You guys are both confused. You said you *don't* want to be with her right now. You aren't even sure what you want in the future. So why put pressure on her to make decisions on how she feels about you when you don't even know your own feelings? Link to comment
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