Running Out Of Steam

[broken_dreams]

warning going to be a rant/long read .. if you've read my other post you'll already see where this is going..

 

same old same old been engaged/dating for 3 years have 3 kids together the oldest is my step son 2 girls are ours. just had a big move to the city in a nice town home finally trying to make it home in fact i'm painting our bathrooms today.

 

so heres how our lifes been going we'll have a great few weeks then randomly the smallest thing will piss one of us off and so the break up fight begins then we blow it up huge then we sex and everythings back to normal.. lately its been lasting longer and longer (staying single on facebook) and i just dont know how much more i can take seems like 9 times out of 10 is my fault or so it seems .. my hubby has been unemployed for almost 2 years and really doesnt seem to care too much about it he always "forgets" to grab resumes on the way out or will do it later. i'm always stuck doing dishes and laundry cuz waiting for him to do things is like waiting for xmas to arrive.

 

i should be enjoying time with my kids as he sleeps up stairs instead i;m sitting here writing this i love him to pieces we kindergarten sweeties and when were good were gold and its great! but when were bad its just real bad it doesn't help that i have anger issues and have got a history of beening abusive to bfs in the past. i've tryed working with a therapist and counsellors but got no where fast with any of them.

 

i'm in such a rut i duno how to get out of it i basically wake up sad cuz i wonder how long the happy will last for the day i'm in the middle of trying to lose weight cuz i have self-esteem issues just feels like everything is falling apart and i cant catch it in time. also note after having 2 pregnancys back to back the youngest is 7 months and i still have no sex drive back!

[Notagoodninja]

Well I have a girlfriend who was in your position and very unhappy a couple years because her sweetheart was unemployed (economy is SO bad out there) and he was being lazy. He got depressed and wouldn't get out of bed for like a couple years...

but she stuck it out and now he has full time job and they are happy again

If you are IN LOVE and sweethearts from little kids (wow how cool) then you should stick it out and just keep encouraging him to look for jobs. A man feels worthless without being able to provide for their family. A man needs to feel accomplished and needed and like he's taking care of his family that's what men were born to do...so he is just in a very depressive, low place.

 

In the meantime I would keep working at your weight like you had said. My friend never would and I always thought that would be a great motivator for her husband. If your husband sees you grabbing hold of life by the horns he will get more inspired to keep up with you!

[broken_dreams]

thanks thats very helpful & encouraging to know that this may pass in due time!

[Notagoodninja]

Here's the way I look at it anyway.

If I was IN LOVE, and my husband was IN LOVE, and neither one cheated...and there is 0 domestic violence, then the relationship can be saved.

ESP if you're both still in LOVE.

This recession is HORRIBLE..........soooooo many people do not have a job...have hope, keep your chin up

[broken_dreams]

well theres not 0 domestic violence i only hit when he sits and eggs me on which he admits to doing.

[broken_dreams]

oh ffs not he's mad at me (but yet still talks me into sex) becuz i haven't officially asked him back out and told me not to send anymore request on facebook to him. its been like 3/4 weeks since so i thought it was pretty clear by now that and i just get tired of doing the same thing over and over again i feel like i'm guna explode this is so stupid.