Just broke 3 years NC. Feelsgoodman

[byates5637]

I dated this girl for about 3 years and we had a terribly messy break 3 years ago. We were on-off for about the last year of the relationship. Finally ended in a big drunken fight and didn't speak again for almost 3 years until today.

 

I'm currently hurting really bad from a breakup 3 weeks ago. So for some reason I was just on facebook and decided I would message this ex-ex and break 3 years of NC.

 

Went very good. She was very happy to hear from me. She said a bunch of nice things and gave some apologies for the stuff back in the day. I told her it was nice talking to her and I had to go. She told me to be in touch soon. I'm almost surprised how receptive she was. Seems like she missed me more than I ever thought. I have zero desire of ever getting back together with her, but seemed like she would entertain the idea.

 

She lives 1200 miles away from me now and lives with her boyfriend, so out of respect for him I'm not going to contact her again. Was nice to say hi though.

[lennygirl]

Good post.

[byates5637]

Whoooooaaaaa. She just called me. That was totally unexpected. I only talked to her for a minute then got off the phone. Toooo personal hearing her voice. I wasn't ready for all that! lmao

 

oldtimes, old times.

[SWEET_J]

Don't use another person to get 'over' someone else.....regardless of HOW long ago you broke up. NOT COOL at all.

[byates5637]

It's totally cool. No one is getting hurt. She dumped me way back in really the meanest way possible. I'm over it now. Just saying hi. I have a feeling I'll be hearing from her again some time soon.

[lennygirl]

Stop communication again!! Screen those phone calls...

[whes]

If you are okay with it all, then go ahead. It's been three years. I think that's enough time to have healed... and it is nice to get an ex back in your life, even if neither of you have any intentions of dating again. It's nice to know people who know you.

[LivingToday]

Hmm...interesting...phone calls so soon seems too fast imo. Like you said, take it easy and don't make expectations.

 

I was contacted about a month ago after a 2 year NC, it was via e-mail (and I did respond back, no animosity). A buddy of mine suspects that it was cause she was 'using' me like SWEET_J thinks happened, getting over someone or perhaps lonely. Could be... either way I'm not going to make expectations or expect them to respond when I do.

 

Just be sure to guard your heart, if you feel susceptible.

[byates5637]

It's nice to know people who know you.

 

This is really nice. She knew a big part of me that no one ever did and no one ever will. I'm not ready to have her back in my life in any meaningful way yet (maybe never will be)...but it's nice to know she is there if I need her.

[whes]

I think you know what you're doing here. You know the situation better than anyone and you seem quite level headed about it, so I'd just say use your best judgement. You'll know when you're ready.

[GenoGeno]

Cool story, i wonder if i contact my ex in three years if she'd still act hostile towards me or actually seem interested in talking to me again. Life works in mysterious ways man!

[byates5637]

Still feels weird that I talked to her last night. I'm wondering if maybe I should have talked to her on the phone a bit more instead of ending it so quickly. Hah whatever...