Celadon Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 Does anyone else have this experience: You *know* about someone's flaws, but they bug you anyway? I was just wondering why it is sometimes hard to accept people as they are. Like, I get mad because a friend lies to me, but then, she frequently lies to people. That's just the way she is. Or, it bothers me that a co-worker is incredibly ambitious and is always talking himself up. I was reading that if you can just accept how the other person is, you won't get mad about it anymore. But I haven't quite figured out how to just "accept" -- does anyone have advice? I don't want other people's behavior to bother me. Thanks!! P.S. Yes, I do know I have flaws myself, so I don't think I'm on a superiority trip or anything. Link to comment
brokenpogostick Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 maybe it's just that the particular behaviors are hard for you to understand...people fear or get mad at what they don't understand. Link to comment
johnagent1911 Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 I wouldn't call being ambitious a flaw... Anyhow just relax. I'm sure you can find other things to stress about. Link to comment
brokenpogostick Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 maybe too it's something about yourself that you don't like and it's causing you to obsess about everyone else...not being rude, just a suggestion Link to comment
sisterlynch Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 I wish I had a dollar for everytime I felt the way the writer feels. It is difficult to connect to someone who lies and is overly ambitious. These are both things that set me off too. I am not sure if I even have an answer better than the ones that are already up there. I guess the real need is to distance yourself on the behavior rather than the person. Some people will say that if you lie and cheat, that makes you a liar and a cheater, but the truth is that we are all full of different qualities and behaviors that are strengths in some areas of life and also weaknesses in other areas of life. I have found that meditation and yoga gives me the confidence to ignore the little things and pay attention to the bigger picture. Sometimes being a bit of a liar and a bragger is ok, just to keep it in check. Did I mention that I am getting straight As in my post doctorate work?? Just as an example ... Link to comment
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