Anal scary

[Chetto14]

decided 2 wait. But im scared of anal. I've heared thats its a big mess? is it?

[Cognitive_Canine]

You don't have to do anything you feel uncomfortable with.

 

And, you have a long time before you even need to be worried about it. Most couples don't explore this until long into their relationship.

 

So, no worries.

[Is]

Don't force yourself doing something you are not uncomfortable doing. When you are ready you will be ready. Just wait and enjoy your life, you got YEARS ahead of you.

[Tilter]

It can be and it will hurt MORE than vaginal sex.

 

Seriously, wait on any form of sex. You're obviously not comfortable discussing sex yet and that's something that's required for a happy healthy sex life.

 

You're 14, chill out. Go enjoy other things with your boyfriend, like getting to know him and learning to communicate. Not just about sex either. Go skating, bowling, walk around town, study. Learn about his personality. You have a long life ahead of you. This boy isn't someone who will stay around forever. He sounds like someone's trying to take advantage of you and your inexperience in life. What 14yr old boy suggest anal sex with his gf? None that I know of.

[Brittney2008]

decided 2 wait. But im scared of anal. I've heared thats its a big mess? is it?

 

Please I beg you to continue waiting. Why rush into these types of things?

 

In my experience it hurts A LOT and it can be a mess it depends on a variety of factors.

[dragon lady]

For me it was more painful and uncomfortable than messy. Never again.

[bri427]

i have done it twice wit my ex fiance,after we broke up haha...it hurt, took awhile to even attempt to get use to it. but if its with someone ure very comfortable wit then the experience is not as bad as it sounds. wait until ur definitely comfortable tho, no need to rush or plan.

[HeartGoesOn]

I'm glad that you decided to wait, enjoy being a teenager, and don't try to grow up too fast.

 

Guys at that age are "here today, gone tomorrow."

[pepsi71ocean]

I so agree, at 14 i never even though about sex.., for that matter i waited till i was 19, and turns out im not with the girl i lost it to either, so take this as a lesson avoided, wait, trust me its well worth it.

 

btw im only 21 now.

[Triplell]

If you decide to do it just remember "An excessive amount of lube is not enough". I wouldn't recommend it as a spur of the moment thing either, as that could get messy. Probably best for the woman to suggest it.