Why did you marry your spouse?

[Lady Rashomon]

I've read a lot of threads on here about how people tend to marry for the wrong reasons. But out of curiosity, what were the attributes in your spouse that made you decide you wanted to build a life with them?

[ayekasong]

Well, to put it plainly, I married my husband because I love him and I had learned that our lifestyles, desires, and interests were compatible.

 

As for the attributes that made me want to build a life with him -

-He's very kind and loving.

-We have many of the same interests.

-He treats me with respect and values me as a human being.

-He is affectionate enough to make me happy but also listens when I need him to back off.

-I can have an intellectual conversation with him, but we can also have a conversation meant purely for laughter.

-Our methods of handling finances and money are the same.

-We have the same opinions on having children.

-He's not perfect, but his imperfections are ones I can live with.

 

That's a very abridged and general list, but those are the qualities I think are most important in my decision to marry him.

[spinstermanquee]

married him b/c we agreed on kids, sex, and money - supposedly, all the important things

 

happy to stay married b/c we are still best friends and still laugh at each other's foibles