Back together with EX - and I am not good at it

[aprilflowers]

We were together 3 years, talked of marriage. He dumped me for an exotic girly which lasted a few months. AWFUL! We started talking after a workplace crisis gave us the opportunity. And listen, we're both over 50!!

 

Six months later: Now we go on a date about once a week or so, and I enjoy his company. He's said I love you several times. Spent the night a couple of times. He's casual, sometimes blows me off - like tonight.

 

But I don't know if I can just drift along with this. I have seen some other people in online dating, but I find they have lots of issues and aren't so interested anyway. Maybe it's the age we are?

 

I am baffled. Any general rules for having a workable relationship with an EX...thanks. Still hopeful, but a little weary now. And gettin' lonely.

[littlestar]

Don't settle for second best just because you're feeling a little lonely. Better to be alone than be treated the way you don't deserve to be treated!

[Seymore]

 

But I don't know if I can just drift along with this.

 

This is the only line that completely stood out to me. Like littlestar said, don't settle. You're being blown off already, and that's not a good thing!

[ForumGuy]

Do you have any idea what he's doing when he "blows you off". Hopefully your not on a priority list with other hopefuls. Try not to lose conciousness while holding your breath waiting for him.

[FootofGod]

You can always try telling him nicely that it's a serious issue for you, and if nothing improves, leave him. There's no way he could pretend he didn't see it coming that way, too.