Anotherday Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 I have four friends in my life and none of them live here (and one may well be on the way out). Well, I have one acquaintance here and we'll get together once every couple of months for lunch, but she is very busy and has four kids, two of whom live at home, so it's not like we're going to be doing much. Since I've lived here (seven years) I have yet to make a decent friend. Within the past couple of years it's been one disappointment after another. I am 50 (which is an important factoid - where do 50 year olds go to make friends?), not working (and even when I have been most of my coworkers are way younger than me so that hasn't worked out) and bored to tears. Things just haven't worked out here. I had one friend who stole an expensive necklace from me, another who was a drama queen with one crisis after the other [alcoholic who ended up in hospital three times, hooked up with hit man criminal BF], another one who called me 40 times in a row over a period of about three weeks (scary), etc. I've never had this problem before making friends anywhere else I've ever lived. Is it this town? My age? It's gotten to the point I don't even want to push myself or put myself out there so I just stay at home. I went to a meetup recently and was pretty much ignored by the women there. I went to another meetup and it went ok and I haven't been back. Meetups can be scary in that you never know who will be there and it's a bit awkward getting together with strangers for dinner. Nonetheless, and even though I cannot afford it, I signed up for two cooking meetups this week. Problem is I'll probably be the oldest person there and this could translate into not friend material. I am too young for the senior center, blah, blah, blah. Any suggestions? Thanks. Link to comment
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