How do you break up?

[rufus]

I broke up with a guy after 3 years of a long-term relatoinship. It was mainly over money issues and trust issues on my part. I'm doing it really slowly. I told him that I wanted to separate; he told me he didn't want to. I don't want to either. But at the same time I think it is best. I don't want a bitter break up. But I feel like the realization is just beginning to sink in that I will have to tell him good bye. And I will break down. I don't want my heart to break. And there are so many issues: we own a car together, we have a dog together, who we both love. I can't imagine if you put kids into the equation. What options do I have? And to make matters worse is it is my parents who are telling me to break up with him. He looks at me and tells me he loves me, and I can't stop myself from telling him that I love him. But I can't love him anymore. My life has taken a dramatic turn for the worse, especially on financial issues. It's our fault, not really his. But he's the worst thing for me.

[ember]

If he's the worst thing for you then maybe (not to be mean) you're the worst thing for him also. Take a chance & break up. If he really cares enough about you he'll be there if you change your mind. good luck! Ciao

[Michael2]

When someone breaks their arm, the doctor , when re-aligning the broken limb does it in a quick fluid manner.

 

This is what I suggest you do. The more you delay , the more painful it will be in the long run.

 

But, before you decide to take this step, think long and hard.

 

Make a list of the pro's and con's.