Have you ever felt like this?

[givinggirl]

I came accross this poem:

 

Stone by Stone

 

I have a wall you cannot see

Because it’s deep inside of me

It blocks my heart on every side

And helps emotions there to hide

You can’t reach in

I can’t reach out

You wonder what it’s all about

The wall I built that you can’t see

Results from insecurity

Each time my tender heart was hurt

The scars within grew worse and worse

So stone by stone

I built a wall

That’s now so thick it will not fall

Please understand that its not you

Continue trying to break through

I want show much to show myself

And love from you will really help

So bit by bit

Chip at my wall

Til stone by stone, it starts to fall

I know the process will be slow

It’s never easy to let go

Of hurts and failures long in grounded

Upon ones heart from years of pain

I’m so afraid

To let you in

I know I might get hurt again

I try so hard to break the wall

But I seem to get nowhere at all

For stone upon each stone ive attacked

And left between them not a crack

The only way

To make it fall is in imperfections in the wall

I did the best I could to build

A perfect wall but there are still

A few small flaws which are the key

To breaking through the wall to me

Please use each flaw

To cause a crack

To knock a stone off of the stack

For just as stone by stone was laid

With every hurt and every pain

So stone by stone the wall will break

As love replaces every ache

Please be the one who cares enough

To find the flaws no matter what.

 

- Kayla Mills

 

Do you think that if someone feels like this that you can do something to break down their walls? What could you do to break down their walls when they are fighting so hard to keep them up?

[Celestialagape54]

I think that it is very possible for someone to come along and knock down those walls. I believe it only happens when the person who has built the walls is really to let them be knocked down or at least "shaken".

 

It all depends on the person who has the walls up. All you can do is be there and be patient and realize that this person has been through a lot and they are probably afraid to trust again. If that person is looking for love or a relationship they will have to realize that sometimes we trust and we get hurt other times we don't.

 

All we can do is go out there and take a chance...

[trezz]

having built my walls deep and solid i would say that only when the builder is ready to withstand the careful destruction of their defences will anyone be allowed to delicatly desmantle the construction.

force will make the concrete set harder.

permission to dismantle and the builders strength to deal with the rubble are necessary.

love the poem.

[givinggirl]

having built my walls deep and solid i would say that only when the builder is ready to withstand the careful destruction of their defences will anyone be allowed to delicatly desmantle the construction.

force will make the concrete set harder.

permission to dismantle and the builders strength to deal with the rubble are necessary.

love the poem.

 

I see what you are saying, but the builder won't dismantle the wall on their own because this is where they feel safe, so how does one know when the time is right? How does one know how to dismantle it? I know that he wants to, but then he gets scared and hides.

[trezz]

he must want to dismantle.

each brick is a pain that he has hidden.

dismantling it may be too painful be careful, maybe a professional may be needed.

each indivual is different.