finally over the ex...but can't seem to find interest in another?

[jojesse]

My last long term relationship ended about 3 years ago, and I've spent the last few years getting over my ex. Within the last year, I have begun to open up more and date people seriously. The problem is, I am finding that there are no interesting fishes in the sea.... While on most days, I like the fact that I am single, there are times when I just miss the intimacy and physical comforts of a solid relationship.

 

Sometimes I wonder if the real problem is that I have lost the ability to trust and really like someone vs. the fact that there are no good guys around. I would date people but it inevitably goes nowhere because I get bored and annoyed...and I refuse to keep someone around just for comfort/company.

 

I just wish I could find someone to love, but it's so hard.

[ftheunion]

what is it that makes a man good? is it his heart? is it his physique? is it his intelligence?

[jojesse]

When I said a "good guy" I meant it as a catch-all phrase for someone I would be interested in, so the anwser would be different for every girl.

[thegoodlife]

i was in a similar situation, except the time was shorter. got dumped by a girl after a two year relationship, and after about ten months, sort of gave up on finding a good girl.

 

i decided to adopt the attitude that i didn't need/care about girls. about two weeks later i hit it off with a classmate i've been acquainted with for years and we are now dating (and it is just the best.)

 

i don't know if that helped you at all, but hopefully it at least gives you hope.