Hi, i have been in a relationship for about two years. We are both in our mid to late twenties and have begun to recently discuss marriage etc. We are both in college and have careers during the day. The problem is that he has just recently quit school to make extra money working a 2nd shift. He wants to put $$ away (for ring, future, etc.) It took me awhile to get comfortable with the idea, since I believe his education is a more important key to both his future and "our" future. He is now thinking about taking a new job, which pays less money and would only be a sort of tactical move not a strategic one. His friend from his present job just left to go work for this firm, has been there only for about a week and is raving about the job and got my boyfriend and interview. I tried to explain to him that the "Grass is greener on the other side" etc. but he won't listen to me. All I want him to do is to not be hasty and to look at things from every angle. He just doesn't listen. Anytime I have given him advice on something, he dismisses it, yet he usually hears the same advice from someone else and then heeds it down the line. When I give him advice it is always down, constructively and logically, never do I talk down to him. I feel taking this job is a huge mistake. The industry that he is in (securities) is iffy to begin with and he would be leaving a position where he has tremendous job security and time for school and moving to something where he has to start all over. I want to marry him, but when I see him make hasty decisions and call him on it he tells me to mind my business etc. Isn't it my partly my business if he wants to have marraige in the near future? How do I get through to him on this one. He is really hard headed about things sometimes. It feels like we make alot of progress and then take steps back in our relationship. He wants to all of a sudden save $$ for the future, than makes a hasty career move the opposite direction. Anyone out there have any advice on how to go about bringing this up tactfully and calmly. (Usually these things for us end up in some huge argument[/b]
