skyecko

History: I met my girlfriend in Dec 2012. We had an instant connection that could only be explained by time standing still. After about a month I opened up to her about some things from my past. I wanted to be honest with her and she said she felt closer because I did. Two days later she went to Vegas. While in Vegas she mistook something I said as not trusting her. When she came back from her trip Ii visited her the next day. She was treating me differently. We got in an argument and she said she needed space. I left and she text me this: I have fear for many things that if I do something wrong bad things could happen, I have told you many times we aren't perfect but I know you are perfect for me, I want to make you happy And i know I can do it, I told you I need to get things straight and all I'm asking is give me time and space, if you think that this will ruin wherever we have, I'm sorry, I want to be with you with no fear of anything, it might be hard but I think this is the way, I don't want this relation to get very strong then brake, that will hurt more than if we wait and do the right thing, I didn't know talking to you getting to know each other will became a relationship, I do want to be your girlfriend and you my boyfriend but I need space and time to little by little change my life and include you in it. Everything has happen really fast for good but at the same as fast can break if we don't do the right things. I like you and care about you a lot, I hope you really understand me, I noticed I don't like to repeat things but I will learn to do it to make sure we understand each other. I text her that I would give her space and I really cared about her and wanted to be with her long term. However, after this point she did not invite me over to her house and when i went to her workplace she didn't come outside and sit in the car and talk like we always had. Because I didn't give her enough space she started texting/calling less (once a day) saying that she was really busy. But when we did talk we would talk for a couple of hours. With her pulling back I tried to be patient but I felt her slipping away so I didn't give ger space again. So on Monday this week she said she wanted to be friends because she just didnt have the time for a relationship and things were complicated in her life. So on Tuesday I dropped a coupon book at her work oh her day off. Wednesday I brought her a card. This is when she told me that her ex-husband was probably going to move back into the house because the immigration (citizenship) people might check to see if they are married. She told me before that she wanted to get a divorce and she didn't love him. At this same time she said she wanted to stop "Whatever this is..." and not to come to her work; text; or call her. I just told her to come back to me when she was ready. That I cared about her and would wait for her. Later i texted her that i would give her the space that she needed. She text me back the following: Thank You for giving me the time and space I need, yes I want to know too how you are and say hello sometimes but for me is really hard to be just friends after of what we had, but for me I think is better if we just limit our conversations work related I'm loosing you right now because this is how it need to be, because I know if we meant to be together it don't matter how much time will pass we will end up together, but for right now we just can't do it. I don't know if I'm clear but like I told you already about my priorities. I don't want to hurt you on any way I care about you and always will be thinking on you. I replied that I would wait for her until she took care of her things (citizensip/divorce); she didn't reply to my last text. So on Sat I couldn't take it anymore and I text her that I just wanted clarification to her previous text message. No reply. So now it is Monday of the next week and i am feeling very alone. Very insignificant. I have too many unanswered questions. I don't know if she will come back; or what. We had something amazing. She even admitted this several times. But she said also that she can't have it right now because of her life being the way it is. To me I feel like it is an excuse because she made time for me before and it wasn't an issue. My personal thought is maybe she didn't think she could get citizenship with me; so she is going back to her husband in an effort to get it. Maybe if she could get through me she would have divorced him and stayed with me. All I can hope is she will come back to me when she is done with things? What I need to know now is what to do to have any hope of getting her back.