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But Chup, again I ask what about the girl's freedom of choice? Isn't it her decision to either accept or reject my advances? She's an adult (early 30s) and is old enough to make up her mind. If she and her boyfriend are in a tight relationship, then my advances won't get me anywhere w/ her other than just being friends. Aside from the morality of whether I should pursue her or not, can anyone tell me what the chances are succeeding in this venture? Does anyone have any experiences that they care to share? Thanks for your help.

Determined, You bring up a good point. The only thing I can say is if this girl and her boyfriend were in such a strong/steady relationship to begin with, then I wouldn't stand a chance to begin with. As for your point about if she can break up w/ her live-in boyfriend, then she could break up with me in the future, there's always that risk. But like most things in life, I view it has nothing ventured, nothing gained. There are no sure certainties in life, and as long as I keep my expectations grounded in reality (i.e. have no expecatiations), I can live with the risk. I'm sorry to hear that your girlfriend left you, but at least you found out before you reached a deeper level of commitment (marriage).

But doesn't the fact that she's living w/ her boyfriend (and subtlely alluding to the fact that they may get married) mean that I don't stand a chance? That's what's perplexing. My sixth sense tells me that she sees something in me that she may not see in her boyfriend (not to mention that she knows I'm still single). In fact, when I mentioned to her that my career means everything to me (I'm a 33 yr old executive at a financial services/banking institution), she seemed to respond favorably to that. But this doesn't change the fact that she's LIVING with her boyfriend. I'm not looking to play with her heart. She really is someone that I would seriously settle down with.

Need advice please. I've met this girl at work who is intelligent and beautiful. She's been living with her boyfriend of almost 2 yrs. We first met about 6 months ago at a work meeting, but hadn't run into each other until last week, where we ran into each other in the cafeteria. We ended up talking for about 10 minutes and then had to leave for our own meetings. But before we left, she said we should get together for lunch. I took her up on her offer a week later and invited her to lunch. We had a great time (her words) and as lunch ended after 2 hrs, she again said we should have lunch again. Now, I know that she's may just want to be friends. What I'd like to know is: do I have a chance at dating her? Or does the fact that she's living with her boyfriend mean that they're destined to get married (a fact that she alluded to when she said she was either going to sell her Mini Cooper car to her boyfriend or give it to him if they were to eventually get married). Thanks for your advice.