I have recently split up with my fiance. We were living together, with an 18month child. We split up 7 months ago, were together for 5 years, and he recently remarried 1 month ago.. which is a crazy situation! He is an excellent father, and would want our child in his life all the time if he could. I am stuck in a dillema. As much as I would love to give him joint custody, Im confused as to if I would be a good mother by doing so. I come from a family where divorce is rare. My mom loves my child, and knocks me everytime I mention the fact of giving our child to him 50% of the time. She constantly tells me what kind of mother would just hand their child over like I want to do. I am a working mother who also is finishing college mon-thu weekdays. Every little bit of time I have free is spent with her, but on the other hand, I have no time for myself. I love my child dearly, but do not find it harmful to give the father 50% custody. I am battling with the fact that I could be considered a "bad" parent by giving him this. I can not go to family for advice or their opinions bc they just knock anything I say. If possible, can someone respond. This is my first post, so Im not sure how it works. My email address is email removed if it requires you to email me. Please help with any advice, opinions, or experience. I just want what is best for my child, as any mother would.
