I am in a real mess at the moment after reading many posts here, I understand that I need to repair myself and am trying but its all too new and very raw.
The history, My gf broke up with me because of issues with her daughter and mine, I didnt realise the extent of these problems just thought it was kids. I can understand that she is only protected her own but I felt she was defiantly the one. We had been seeing each other for 8 months and then out of the blue she goes over to my house and gets her things leaving me the worst ever 'Dear John'. We got together again (last time was 8yrs ago) after she split with her ex after he was abusing her. I was there as her friend and it rekindled our feelings for one another at such an intense level. We had plans to move into together get married etc. I dont have a great relationship with the rest of her family due to events past, which I dont think is helping.
The real kicker is that she says she still loves me, on the day she went and got her stuff she texted me to say she loves me and has said this all week. I believe that there are ways around the kid issues I only have my daughter one day a week. but she is unable to see these workarounds saying it still wouldnt work. It has only been a week and having the read the posts about 'no contact' am trying but am obvouisly not strong enough. Today is her Nans funeral and I had to send a text to say I am thinking about her. Over the weekend we had a chat and we seemed to be making progress as soon as the call was finished she sent a text saying that there is no point in talking about it because the main problem wont go away.
I cant lose her again she is 'the one' but I need her to make her own mind up, I am trying very hard not to persuade her because she says I have always been able to solve her problems and I want her to change her mind, not change it because I have changed it for her.
We have said that if all else fails then there is 15yrs from now when the girls have grown up...but I cant wait that long.
Should I continue with the 'no contact' or should I do something else.
Thanks
