Hi,
I'm not really sure what to do... I met this man about a year ago on the net, we really hit it off, clicked very well, etc. About 3 months of getting to know each other, I decided to be brave and tell him about my feelings for him, he reciprocated and it was amazing, we would email everyday constantly. I became more and more important to him in his life. I eventually went to see him, and it was like magic....seriously, I'm not the type of girl to rush into things, but I honestly felt totally loved and happy. The problem started I guess after a couple of months of "going out" he got this really demanding job, he's usually there for 10-12 hours daily, 5 days a week...when he got the job I immediately noticed a change, he hardly returned my emails....he still calls me everyday, but he would seem distracted....we started arguing a little because I felt neglected and he felt like I was always "picking" on him....he says he wants a future with me, that he wants to marry me eventually, but it scares me because I feel like I'm not making him happy like I used to.... I feel like he doesn't need me like he did and that the sweet things I do for him go unnoticed or unmentioned....I also am concerned because it feels like I really have to pry things out of him when I'm trying to dicsuss our feelings and whatnot....he will keep saying nothing's wrong, and about after 20 minutes of questioning, he'll finally come out and say....but nothing I seem to do or say makes him feel any better.... I love him so much but I feel kind of hopeless sometimes.... I feel like if I wasn't trying so hard, we'd eventually go our separate ways....it really hurts to be in this situation again , especially after my last relationship (I basically did all the work and was unappreciated).... I'm not looking for any special rewards or anything... I just want to know that the things I do make him happy.... I just dont know what to do...is it the distance? his job? or is he just tired of me... what do you all think
