SusieQ

If they are doing behind your back, it's cheating. Chances are he's going to do it again and again. And chances are he has met some of these women. Without trust you don't have a relationship.

Leave the pig!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you Axe! I also caught my man with on-line chats, and pictures, and emails. But he saw nothing wrong with it. It is wrong. Keeping it from your partner was the first wrong thing you did. It is the same as cheating.

Brandy I think you have what is referred to as a "player". I know the type very well. I live with one. Are you sure he's not cheating on you. If given' the chance, a player will. If you have argued about it, then he knows how you feel. He is obviously getting some kind of cheap thrill out of it. And he obviously doesn't care what you think. Dump him!@!!!!!

Angel please contact me. I seriously think we have the same guy. Email please.

You did the damage when you broke it off. In her mind she saw you saying that her loving you and her help with your problems was not needed.

As for the sex after you broke off: She needed to get you out of her system one last time.

The new boyfriend: A substitute for you, but not someone she could love. It will take her a long time before she will ever love someone again, because of the pain she went through with you.

Getting back with her: Not a chance! You left a scar on her heart that will never heal.

Could it be that you got used to him being there, and thought he always would be. Life was the same ole' thing day after day, so you drifted, and neglected each other. You didn't keep the fire burning so to speak? And after you realized you may lose him, you remembered and felt how much you really still love him?

Glad I was of some help Allan. Give her lots of time, let her know you really want to try it again. And by all means do not say "you did this wrong", or "if you had only done this", it would only add to the pain she already has, and may push her in the other direction. I wish you the best.

Even if she is just "doing it for you", that itself shows she still cares for you.

The coldness sounds like a woman that is very hurt, not someone that has another.

I am in a relationship now where he is 13 years older than me. There is so much he talks about when he was younger that I don't have a clue about. But really age does not matter if you really love the person you're with. You will have so many differences that it will make it sort of unique.

But if he doesn't even have a clue that you're in love with him, and does not have feelings for you, then you need to try to find another job, or try to stay away until you can get over these feelings.