DrewChaps2005

This is a bit of a complicated story, but here it goes: Back in the tenth grade, I had a huge crush on a girl I knew named Amanda. I could relate to her on a lot of things, and she was really fun to be around. Anyway, I was too shy to ask her out, and she ended up leaving my school. When she left, I never stopped liking her. I thought about her all the time, and I never had another crush for the whole next school year. At the end of eleventh grade, I heard some people saying that Amanda would be returning to the school this year (senior year). I was excited, and by this time, more confident. Well, when the first day of school rolled around, I finally saw her again. She had to be about ten times more attractive than before. She used to be good looking, but that wasn't the reason I liked her. But now, she's very attractive, and she feels out of my league. I've talked to her several times, she's still the same person inside. She still laughs at my crappy attempts at humor, and has hilariously pointless conversations at times (We once discussed the best vegetable to simulate a head exploding in a movie; she said "Gourd", I said "Pumpkin". You'd have to be there I guess) So I was really pumping myself up to get some balls and ask her out, but then I ran into an obstacle. This jerk in my class keeps hitting on her and stuff. I've seen him write notes to her saying "From your secret admirer" (yet still giving the note to her in person), things like that, but he only does it because his older brother goes out with her older sister. He seems to think that she's entitled to be with him because of his brother. She doesn't SEEM to like him too much, but I really don't know. Anyway, the only thing holding me back from asking her out is the fear of being rejected. If she says no, it might compromise the good friendship we have at this point. I enjoy being around her and talking to her, so I'd hate for it to be tainted by awkwardness. Anyway, does anyone have any advice for me? I'm in a bit of a limbo at the moment, unsure of what to do. Should I casually ask her out? Tell her how I feel? Beat the other guy to a pulp and blame it on Al Quaeda? This is just one girl I don't want to miss out on, I've never felt like this for anyone else. My stomach flips around every time I even see her. It must mean something if I've liked her like this for so long.

Hey everyone, there is a girl I know that I really want to ask out on a date, but I am REALLY nervous. I have known the girl since I was in the 9th grade (I am now in 11th), and I was good friends with her in the 10th. For about 6 months of that school year, I tried to build up the courage to ask her out, but I never could. Here is my dilemma. She did not return to my school when I became a junior. I haven't seen her in over 6 months. I still, however, want to ask her out. As you can see, she means a lot to me. After 6 months, I still think about her every day. I am really nervous about calling her. I had to find her number in the phone book, meaning she didn't even give it to me. Plus, if I did call, it would probably be very awkward to make conversation. I just don't know what to do or say. And when I do ask her out, It will probably sound forced, I don't think I'll be able to fluently integrate it to the conversation. Another thing that worries me, what if she says no? It would certainly hamper our friendship. I imagine it'd be awkward to talk to her after that. Some good news I just found out, though, she is coming back to my school next year. However, I don't want to wait that long, for fear I could lose her to someone else. Please help me with my problem. Edit: Meant to say "known the girl since 9th grade". Sorry about that. O_o

Thanks for the reply. I think I'm going to call her this weekend. Anyone else have anything to suggest?

Well, I came here hoping to get some advice, so here goes. I'm 16 years old, a junior in high school. There's this girl I've known for 2 years now, and I was good friends with her all of my sophomore year. She's cute, and she definitely does not have her head in the clouds. We share similar interests, too. She's one of the only girls I could talk to last year; most of them just talked about clothes, or how much they hated some other girls (a lot of the girls at my school fight constantly over incredibly stupid things). About a fourth into the year, I realized I liked this girl. I spent a lot of time trying to get up the courage to ask her out, but I never could. And then, of course, I had some bad luck. My friend told me she was switching schools. I couldn't believe it. Yet again, however, I could not get up the courage to ask her out. Anyway, here's my dilemma. Everyone suddenly knows I like her at school, you know how things spread. They kept telling me to call her and ask her out, but I think it would be very awkward to look up her number in the phone book and just call one day. And the situation grows more deep. I've heard rumors that she's changed. Not in a bad way, but I've heard that she's suddenly become religious fanatic of sorts. Someone told me she only listens to gospel music now. I myself am a Christian, so if she chose to live that way, it wouldn't bother me, but if she's changed her outlook on life like I've been told, she might have made a commitment not to date or something. However, there was some good news, she is returning to my school next year. Should I wait a whole year for her to come back, or should I ask her out? If so, how? It's starting to tear me apart, and this place seems like the only place I can turn to for help. Thanks in advance.