I guess I should start by saying my girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now. The relationship has been long distance in nature ever since it started, with me going to school in Boston and her living in NY. However, I took a job in Chicago in the beginning of August, and things have been difficult ever since she got back to school. Everything was fine when she was still at home, but since she's been back at school she's been extremely busy, with work school and playing a sport all taking up her time. I have tried to be understanding, but at the same time I have had alot of difficulty with the fact that we rarely speak anymore. I tried on numerous occasions to explain to her what I was going through, but she just got irritated with me and told me she didn't have time for emotional conversations anymore, she just wants everything to be less emotional in her life. I can understand this as she has had to deal with alot of hardship in her life, and I don't want to be another burden to her, but I just feel like she is unwilling to change in the least, and while I am willing to do anything for her it seems like she is unwilling to be even the least bit sympathetic or make any kind of effort. She says i try to play too many mental mind games with her, and then she gets frustrated because she seems to think I am rehashing the same topics over and over again. I thought if she understood how unhappy she was making me, everything would just go back to normal, but obviously I was wrong. Am I going about this thing in all the wrong way? I am just really confused and I really love this girl so I don't want to mess this thing up. I am going up there next week for the long weekend, and she has said that she just needs some "breathing space" right now until we can talk about things in person. Problem is, I know once i get up there things will be ok but not great, and we will end up not talking about anything because she is so afraid of it becoming an emotional drag out fight. Any advice you guys could give would be great, as I am driving myself crazy.
