I have a situation where my husband not even of a year yet, is trying to get custody of his two oldest sons. He has 4 children ages 17,16,11,13.
When he talks about getting custody, he doesn't say he thinks they will be better off living with us...he says, that they want to live with him and he wants them to live with us, and he is going to win this time. His ex isn't a bad mother and she has been the main caretaker of all 4 of them. They have been divorced almost 4 years now and have lived with the mother. They all come to my house every other weekend like clockwork. Which I don't understand, because when I was 17 and 16 I was never home.
My husband went to a lawyer last week and he is under the impression he can get immediate temporary orders of custody of his two sons. His oldest told me last week, if the judge asks him why he wants to live with his father he is going to say "noone in my house can help me with my math homework but my dad can." I kind of laughed inside after he made this comment to me. I said nothing. My husband and I have been butting heads about this custody issue because I told him that if I were their mother I wouldn't want anyone taking my kids from me...his answer "well she took them away from me" Seems like a tit for tat who's going to win game to me.
I do have a problem with his sons living here, because they sneak out in the middle of the night, they drink, they smoke pot, smoke cigarettes, and there is mentally something wrong with the oldest one. I have an 8 year old daughter living with me and don't want or need this in front of her. We have set ground rules here if they are to live here, and who knows if they will abide by them. I caught the oldest last weekend burning the hair off his arm with a cigarette lighter and told my husband and his response was....he is just looking for attention. Sick way of looking for attention if you ask me. He is extremely immature for his age, and follows me around the house like a dog. Getting pretty sick of it.
The bottom line is they don't want to live with their mother because she is too strict and won't let them do anything...they think living here will be like disney world. I don't think so. Any suggestions?