friendlyguy

Hi all, my ex broke up with me after a 16y relationship, we have 4 children. I didn't see it coming at all. Nothing major happened. She just felt i didn't pull my weight the last 2 years. Looking back i can't blame her. But she never adressed it. My first reaction was there had to be someone else. You do not break up like that, i mean no warning, no nothing. In fact a week before we broke up she said she wanted to grow old with me. 6 months earlier my sister broke up and her actual words were "we will never do this will we, please never leave me". And now she breaks up just like that. I asked to see marriage counceling but she wouldn't dream of it. she doesn't love me anymore ,i've been lying to myself for the last 2 years is what she says. She moved out imidiatly with a friend and found an apartment a week ago. It's been 25 day's now and i feel like im loosing my mind. i don't understand how you can throw away a marriage like that, we actualy had a gr8 marriage the previous 14 years. btw there is noone else. i would love to try and not contact her. but can't because of the kids. Any advice? Thx for your time and sry for my poor English