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Hello all, Thanks for the responses for my previous posts. I am sorry for a new post, but i guess the readability of an existing post is not as good as it is for a new one. Hence this post. Sorry if its a mistake. You can read my previous post here: Coming to the currentsituation: I think I have obsessive compulsive disorder!! I am not able to remove this girl from my mind, and i really need to gettogether with her. I also have couple of other thoughts, like may be she didnt like the way i live, may be she doesnt want to go with me anymore. How do i be apologetic and tell her that i really liked her and ask her to know me. Even then if she doesnt like me, i'll think thats my fate. Please advice. And when do i call her again? What if she doesnt answer. can i leave her a message? Thanks a ton for all your support. Really really appreciate it.

Hey, Thanks for the reply. Really appreciate it. I know i am being dumb, but when should i call her again? Especially after not getting any replies for any of my mails, I am thinking i would give her some breathing time like a week or so and catch her off guard some evening, and ask her out maybe for a movie or dinner. But what actually does she mean by 'not being ready for a relationship'? and 'we could still be friends' and not replying to my mails? I am confused here. Please help. All I need now is a second chance and i guess i will make it up to her then. Pavan

Hi all, Thanks for all the valuable info. This is what happened and i am worried. I emailed her the next morning just saying 'hi', without any reply. I left it there and yesterday evening, around 10 pm, i got a call from her saying this: (I am leaving the obvoius hellos and my responses) "Hi, I think we should be friends. I am not ready for a relationship now. And I felt you were a little forward at your apartment. I like to know the guy before i enter a relationship!!" This was the gist of what she said. Ofcourse I said "Thanks for the call, appreciate it, and I am sorry, though i am not that kind, hey i respect your opinion. Yes lets be friends and gimme a call when you like to do something" She said "Sure, You too gimme a call when u like to go out". I was very depressed (Ladies please listen....guys who behave gentle with you and take your No as No, do feel bad when you say they behaved wrong with you!!). And today morning, I got very desperate, to get a second chance, and mailed her this: "HerName, Thanks for the call yesterday night. I am sorry you didnt have good time the other day. Yes, I would like to friends with you. I felt I had good time and i wanted to show that. Infact I feel i had great time every minute I spent with you. I was wondering if you would go out with me some other time again? May be we could get to know eachother better? May be for a dinner, a cup of coffee or lunch sometime? Lemme know. Hope i get a reply this time...... Thanks MyName" I havent received any mail form her yet. What should i do. I want to go out with her, would like to know her, and let her know me. If THEN we feel we arent right for eachother, I think i can take it. But not like this. Please advice, help. Any help is much much appreciated. Thanks Pavan

Tonight, i have been on my first date and i am guessing it went well. This is what happened: She met me in the apartment lobby and i handed her a rose. We walked to the restaurant, talked abt our jobs (briefly), what we want to do in life, what interests us and stuff like that. We walked back, after abt 2 hours, and as she lives 2 floors above me, i pressed her floor's number on the elevator. Then she started asking me abt my apartment, where it is, if it is a one bed or two etc. By the time we were on 14th i could gather some courage and asked her if she would like to see my apartment. She said 'If you dont want to show me, thats fine!!". I was surprised by this, as i wasnt planning to invite her in (as per the ancient wisdom of avoiding any romance on the first date). I let her in and closed the door. I asked her if she would like to drink something (Unfortunately i didnt have any beer or wine at home!! ). I offered her a Starbucks Fraputchino which she took and we talked for sometime. then the topic went on to tango and i said i know a little bit of it, and asked her if she would care to try. She jumped at it and we did a bit of tango. While dancing i told her she smells good and kissed her on the cheek. She didnt oppose. I ASKED her if i could kiss her. She nodded her head as if saying no. No means no for me, so i said anything you say. And then she checked her watch and said its abt time she should leave. I didnt push much, but asked her if she would like to stay for some more time. She said she gotta be going. I went out with her, to her apartment and kissed her again, told her that i had good time and asked if she would care to come out sometime next week. She said "probably on monday". Thats what happened on this lovely, yet very Hot day in the midwest!! Now here are my questions: 1) why did she want to come to my home? Is it just to see how i live? 2) If she had romance on her mind, did i do something stupid to turn her off? 3) If i did, then why did she say, she would 'probably' meet on monday? Please throw some light on this. Any help is much appreciated. Thanks

Hello all and SweetTartz, Sweettartz, thanks for ur reply. Tonight, i have been on my first date and i am guessing it went well. This is what happened: She met me in the apartment lobby and i handed her a rose. We walked to the restaurant, talked abt our jobs (briefly), what we want to do in life, what interests us and stuff like that. We walked back, after abt 2 hours, and as she lives 2 floors above me, i pressed her floor's number on the elevator. Then she started asking me abt my apartment, where it is, if it is a one bed or two etc. By the time we were on 14th i could gather some courage and asked her if she would like to see my apartment. She said 'If you dont want to show me, thats fine!!". I was surprised by this, as i wasnt planning to invite her in (as per the ancient wisdom of avoiding any romance on the first date). I let her in and closed the door. I asked her if she would like to drink something (Unfortunately i didnt have any beer or wine at home!! ). I offered her a Starbucks Fraputchino which she took and we talked for sometime. then the topic went on to tango and i said i know a little bit of it, and asked her if she would care to try. She jumped at it and we did a bit of tango. While dancing i told her she smells good and kissed her on the cheek. She didnt oppose. I ASKED her if i could kiss her. She nodded her head as if saying no. No means no for me, so i said anything you say. And then she checked her watch and said its abt time she should leave. I didnt push much, but asked her if she would like to stay for some more time. She said she gotta be going. I went out with her, to her apartment and kissed her again, told her that i had good time and asked if she would care to come out sometime next week. She said "probably on monday". Thats what happened on this lovely, yet very Hot day in the midwest!! Now here are my questions: 1) why did she want to come to my home? Is it just to see how i live? 2) If she had romance on her mind, did i do something stupid to turn her off? 3) If i did, then why did she say, she would 'probably' meet on monday? Please throw some light on this. Any help is much appreciated. Thanks Pavan

Hi, My name is Pavan. I work in Chicago, have a decent job. I met this girl (she is like chinese...but dunno where she is really from!!) who lives in the same apartment as i am. I got her number from our apartment directory, called her, to which she responded and we agreed to goto a near by restaurant this friday. We decided to walk there as it is jst 7 blocks away from our apartment building. This is my first date ever and i really like her. My questions are: 1) How do i greet her when i see her in the lobby (thats where we decided to meet) 2)Should i shake hand, give a kiss on the cheek or what? 3) We dunno eachother, so i guess there will topics abt our family and stuff like that, but what if she asks me abt my exs? I know i need to avoid talking abt, but i dont have any exs!! If i tell her that wont it sound weard? 4) After we come back again same question, should i ask her in? (I really want to avoid romance on the first date!!) , or kiss her good night or shake hands as if we went out on a business meeting? 5) How do i know if she liked the first date and if she ever will go out again with me? 6) Should i call/email her immediately the next day? Any help is much appreciated, and you will be invited to our marriage if it works out. Thanks Eagerly waiting Pavan