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Hi Hawk, I understand it's hard to forget the level of intimacy. Your ex was in a difficult situation when he lost his job, and obviously his self esteem got so down that he needed time for himself to get things back on track again. I don't think it's good that you both have contact everyday, because in that way he's not taking time. Men in general, when they lose something important and don't want to be dependent on the girl tend to "go back to their cave" To look back at what happened, to place things in order and after that to think about a new strategy. Give him time, that's all you can do.

Pfff I want to contact my ex badly now. She asked me some small thingie via textmessage to do for her. I want to say yes and run to her immediately Have....to...stick...to..the..plan. aargh But i'm Trying to focus on other stuff now. she misses me utterly, but i need time to work on myself and do the things i have to do. This situation is so difficult.

@ rangranger Wow, you're doing very good! I personally think you shouldn't go, because you would make it complicated for yourself. It's not ok that she just hops over to somebody else, and if you would go "just for fun", you would deny your own feelings. Come on guy, it's disrespectfull what she's doing to you and she's trying to see if you miss her or not. You don't have to show her what she's missing, she already knows. Stick to the plan boy.

@ twomonks: It may be hard for you now that he hasn't contacted with you since. To me it looks like you are both still living in the past, how good the relationship was before it went "bad". Perhaps it was too soon to see eachother. It doesn't work out to wait for his phonecall, Call it "false hope". It makes you lose focus on yourself. You can ask yourself also why he felt guilty breaking up with you, what was the reason he broke up?

Hi, I'm new to this. First of all I want to tell you that I am very happy with all of your stories, they give me the feeling i'm not alone. And superdave for his enormous motivating answers. I read them over and over they give me courage and strength and make me smile.