Greetings all,
I have recently over the past month or so met this girl who seems terrific but also just seems to confuse me over and over and I was hoping someone might understand whats going on or what to do or anything that starts with what....
We are both twenty one, and we work together. After a week of working together and cracking jokes and stories she invited me to a party over at her house and I went and had a great time. We've hung out several times since then but I simply dont know if she see's me as just a friend, or something more. One conversation I think she's flirting, the next I think she's just buddy buddy and although Im not all that shy Im a little worried of asking her out, her saying no, and then things getting weird and losing what looks like at the very least a cool friend.
Some of the things that have gone on: One - We are both from California and are living in another state for school. She's made a few comments, perfectley serious, that If I went back home she would go back with me, but then she makes cracks like 'she doesnt care (about whatever) as long as it gets her back home (not sure if playing or not). A thing that makes me worry is that she hangs out with alot of guys, and Im not sure if when we kick it she just see's it like she's hanging out with these other guys. She does tease me a bit and I do the same, I always saw that as a good sign, but then she goes and says she treats everyone like that so she's not just being mean to me (Bah! No clear signal!). She told me last night that she had never cheated on a boyfriend before, Im not even sure how that one came up but I thought that was worth noting. She brought up a ex-boyfriend and how he totally screwed up flirting with her at first, and that just left me going 'eeeh?' but it struck me as weird.
And on and on.
One moment I think I should ask her out, the next moment I think its just a bad idea.
What would you do?
Jams
