mbaran79

Thanks so much. Youve been a great giver of advice

So what would be the best way to get her back? Maybe I am going about this all wrong. Thanks, Matt

Well, its been 3 days since I have had any contact with her. I am actualy starting to enjoy single life a bit and in a way i do think that this break is the best thing for both of us. However she hasnt contact me and her friends say that she is pretty set in what she is doing and sees more and more that we probably wont get back together. She wanted 7 days with no contact but its only been 3. Should I email her and tell her that I think this has been good for us so to try and salvage a friendship? Or just give her the week and see what happens? What are the chances that she will miss me? Trying but its hard sometimes, Matt

Thats encouraging yet discouraging at the same time. Do you think I should not contact her period for a couple weeks or possibly send her a note here and there just saying that I love you?

I was just broken up with my girlfriend of 2 years. We lived together in college and she still has a year to go while I have graduated. 3 months ago we were planning on getting married next year. I did everything for her. I always tried to give her the best and be there for her 100% Since then she had developed some new friends and things had gone downhill since then. These new friends have been coming out of the closet and breaking up with thier boyfriends for eachother. Since she made these friends she started paying less attention to me. I asked her if she was having feelings like them a couple of times and she said no way. Things continued to go downhill and she became less and less loving and more unresponsive to the things i would say to her. Now last sunday she told me that she doesnt know what she wants and she just wants to be alone for awhile. She said that she still loves me (although she stopped wearing her promise ring) but just cant be with me right now and doesnt know if she ever will. She says that I will be the best person for her ever but cant give me what i need right now to be happy. I guess my question is that if she wants space, the best thing i should do is probably give it to her. So i havent called or emailed her in a couple days. With as much as we had in the past, should I expect her to change her mind if she sees that I have grown into a stronger person and given her what she wants by letting her have her space? I dont think that constantly bugging her will make myself more attractive to her and make her want to get back with me...but maybe im wrong. I know she is having a hard time with this as well and I do not think there is another guy in the picture at this point. If there is anyone out there that has gone through a smilar situation or any females that have been in simlar shoes as her could you please enlighten me and let me know what to expect. I apprecitae all advice that can be given. Thanks, Matt

I was just broken up with my girlfriend of 2 years. We lived together in college and she still has a year to go while I have graduated. 3 months ago we were planning on getting married next year. I did everything for her. I always tried to give her the best and be there for her 100% Since then she had developed some new friends and things had gone downhill since then. These new friends have been coming out of the closet and breaking up with thier boyfriends for eachother. Since she made these friends she started paying less attention to me. I asked her if she was having feelings like them a couple of times and she said no way. Things continued to go downhill and she became less and less loving and more unresponsive to the things i would say to her. Now last sunday she told me that she doesnt know what she wants and she just wants to be alone for awhile. She said that she still loves me (although she stopped wearing her promise ring) but just cant be with me right now and doesnt know if she ever will. She says that I will be the best person for her ever but cant give me what i need right now to be happy. I guess my question is that if she wants space, the best thing i should do is probably give it to her. So i havent called or emailed her in a couple days. With as much as we had in the past, should I expect her to change her mind if she sees that I have grown into a stronger person and given her what she wants by letting her have her space? I dont think that constantly bugging her will make myself more attractive to her and make her want to get back with me...but maybe im wrong. I know she is having a hard time with this as well and I do not think there is another guy in the picture at this point. If there is anyone out there that has gone through a smilar situation or any females that have been in simlar shoes as her could you please enlighten me and let me know what to expect. I apprecitae all advice that can be given. Thanks, Matt