I KNOW THIS LOOKS LONG BUT PLEASE READ
I'm seventeen years old and I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years. He's the only serious boyfriend I've ever had, the only guy I've ever kissed...I love him with all my heart. But lately I've been catching him lying to me. I've been noticing it a lot lately.
The first incident earlier this month...I called him one night that he lft early from my house. I asked what he was doing, he said sitting at home. And I heard voices in the background and he says it just the TV. I asked if he's lying and he says yeah, well, I just have 2 friends over. I said okay. Then I heard girls around him and then he admitted he lied and he's out at a party...again.
The next incident was last night. He told me he was going to a local city place to go shop with a friend. I stayed home with a friend of mine. Later that night I called and asked where he was he said he was in WalMart. I asked if he was talking with all the girls (kiddingly) and he said no. The a girls voice says "hey guys, are you coming?" Then I was immediately hung up on. Which this morning he says was an accident because he dropped his phone in the car. Which is funny cuz he was supposedly in WalMart. So I finally told him I'm sick of his lying and he told me where he really was. He was in a totally different town than he said and was with ONLY ONE GIRL cuz she was getting them beer. He was with 4 of his guy friends and didn't tell me the truth cuz he didn't want me to be mad. Because MORE THAN ANYTHING, I HATE IT WHEN PEOPLE LIE. Especially in a relationship like ours, by now I should be able to trust him.
These are only recent lies he's told me. But he lies about little things too and it drives me crazy. He doesn't want to tell me when he lies over the phone cuz he doesn't want us to fight but he constantly tells me lies in front of his friends on the phone...it makes me feel like some girl he just uses.
He just graduated this year and I'll be graduating next year. We had a good relationship before with stupid little fights but lately its gone too far. I don't know how I'm supposed to trust him when he's at college. Or how to ever believe him again. How long has he been lying to me? I am so lost and confused. Our relationship has never been this close to the edge. I feel unwanted and used and small. I feel like I need to try to impress him. I feel betrayed. We had such a strong relationship and it seems ruined now and I don't want to do the wrong thing. Does he deserve a million chances? He makes promises he doesn't keep...
Please respond...
Thanks for listening,
Jen
