lilshyguy

the thing is, i was always too chicken to ask her out, and i think my shyness could have been misinterpreted as a lack of interest. She had another boyfriend just after the one that made us best friends, and she told me she was gonna break up with him cause she hardly saw him and she was spending more time with me at the time, She broke up with him on the phone while sitting with me in my car at school. After that we seemed even closer and hung out alot and showed no interest in any other guy until now. And back when i stood up for her. i didnt have these feelings, i was just happy knowing that i was important to someone as she even said to me that she was scared of losing me to her ex as i was friends with both of them

ok, heres the thing, im 18 and im a guy, my best friend of almost year is a girl. I met her at the beginning of the year as she was new to the school. Im a very shy guy and she, along with a couple other girls i met really brought up my confidence and i spent a lot of time with them. Well anyways about 2-3 months in she went out with a close friend of mine. Meanwhile i became closer to her as a friend. When this friend ended up breaking up with her (still dont know why, neither does she) she came to me for support. When i heard some of the things he said to her after the break up, i stood up for her and had an argument with the friend, and after that, weve never said a word to each other. Since then me and her have been best friends, and she sees me like a brother. We spent most of our time together, and people i know in my classes started to bug me that i liked her and wanted to go out with her, or how they thought we should go out, but i always said we're just friends. But now, the more time i spend with her, the more i think i like her. I just don't know how she feels. Sometimes im sure that she just sees me as a friend, as she has told me many times when shes felt weird that some of our other friends have asked her out that she doesnt date friends since that break-up. but other times i feel like im sure that she does want more. And when i think about some of the things shes said to others about us just being friends, i think to myself that i have been saying the same things, so i dont know if she is feeling the same way and is just as confused as i am. I think it only bothers me because i dont know how she feels, i think id be ok with it if she only wants to be friends, but ive seen two other of her close guy friends ask her out and a distance grow between them. She has become the most important person in my life, and i dont want that to happen. I know that this is not lust, because i dont find the physical part that important, I like her for who she is, and i just dont want to lose her. She is the kind of person i'd like to spend the rest of my life with. Ive lost so much sleep over this. It's killing me inside wondering how she feels. Schools over now, so i wont see her as often, but we still talk almost every night online. The thing is, shes now going out with a guy she works with and i dunno if its because shes given up on me or what. When she told me about it it was on messenger and she was saying how she went to see fireworks with him for Canada Day and she said it like "Well... uhh... we're kinda seeing each other... and there were so many people we work with there lol" i cant read her very well and i dont know if she was hesitant to tell me or anything but i was just like "oh, cool lol" I still dont know if its just my imagination or what. I think I should wait it out 'till they break up, but i dunno how to go about it in the meantime. Shes the only thing on my mind. Plz Help

well, its been awhile now and i still havent done anything about my problem. The thing is, shes now going out with a guy she works with and i dunno if its because shes given up on me or what. When she told me about it it was on messenger and she was saying how she went to see fireworks with him for Canada Day and she said it like "Well... uhh... we're kinda seeing each other... and there were so many people we work with there lol" i cant read her very well and i dont know if she was hesitant to tell me or anything but i was just like "oh, cool lol" I still dont know if its just my imagination or what. and recently ive started to think that i have non hyperactive ADD and ive heard that thinking to much about stuff like this can be a symptom but i dunno.

ok, heres the thing, im 18 and im a guy, my best friend of almost year is a girl. I met her at the beginning of the year as she was new to the school. Im a very shy guy and she, along with a couple other girls i met really brought up my confidence and i spent a lot of time with them. Well anyways about 2-3 months in she went out with a close friend of mine. Meanwhile i became closer to her as a friend. When this friend ended up breaking up with her (still dont know why, neither does she) she came to me for support. When i heard some of the things he said to her after the break up, i stood up for her and had an argument with the friend, and after that, weve never said a word to each other. Since then me and her have been best friends, and she sees me like a brother. Many of our other friends seem to have distanced themselves from us but we've stuck together. We spent most of our time together, and people i know in my classes started to bug me that i liked her and wanted to go out with her, or how they thought we should go out, but i always said we're just friends. But now, the more time i spend with her, the more i think i'm falling in love. I find myself crying at night, because i dont know how she feels. Sometimes im sure that she just sees me as a friend, as she has told me many times when shes felt weird that some of our other friends have asked her out (including the only one left who still hangs out with us regularly) that she doesnt date friends since that break-up. but other times i feel like im sure that she does want more. And when i think about some of the things shes said to others about us just being friends, i think to myself that i have been saying the same things, so i dont know if she is feeling the same way and is just as confused as i am. It only bothers me because i dont know how she feels, i think id be ok with it if she only wants to be friends, but ive seen two other of her close guy friends ask her out and a distance grow between them. She has become the most important person in my life, and i dont want that to happen. I know that this is not lust, because i dont find the physical part that important, I like her for who she is, and i just dont want to lose her. She is the kind of person i want to spend the rest of my life with. Ive lost so much sleep over this, and once i even snuck out of my house and left in my car at 3 in the morning to try and get it out of my head and i ended up driving by her house which is almost 40 kms away. It's killing me inside wondering how she feels. And now i dont know if its just me but she seems different in a way that makes me think that if she did like me, shes given up and now is trying to move on. We just graduated and schools over now, so i wont see her as often, but we still talk almost every night online. I dont know what to do anymore plz help