callaholic

i only held out for 4 days and then i made an idiot out of myself on fri, sat and sunday. on fri, he told me he didn't want to talk to me, didn't hate me, i shouldn't feel that peace hasn't been made, he just doesn't want to talk to me. i called on saturday with my wallet excuse and his mom had a 'chat' with me and explained to me like i was crazy that the relationship was over, he was trying to move on, i should to, she's sorry if he's sent me any mixed signals but what he told her was very clear - to ask me not to call anymore. she was nice, but i was mortified. i've never had someone's mother involved like that before and i was so embarrassed and hurt. i tried again on sunday, b/c i still can't believe that he was so nice after the other breakup, which i thought was worse and such a jerk this time. on sunday he said mebbe he would talk to me in a couple of weeks, but not a couple of hours and not a couple of days. i still miss him so much and wish he would realize what a jerk he's been and apologize. i also feel like i did something wrong since he is so mad and his mom lectured me, but my friends keep telling me that i really didn't do anything wrong, he was a jerk to me, mebbe i should have reacted with less phone but that he knows that i am upset and doesn't really think i'm crazy. it still sucks to miss someone that is being mean to you, and i still feel baffled that someone that loved me so much on a friday can tell me to never speak to them again by monday. i wish i didn't want him back, but i do and i will keep hoping that he will call. thank u everyone for being so nice and trying to help me...

No, I do call too much. I call and then after we hang up I always call back with an "Oh, I forgot....." He has complained about it to me in the past a couple of times, and I try not to do it too much, but when we are arguing he always turns his phone off and it upsets me. I guess I drove him crazy, and I feel bad about it. But we had plans to move in together, and I thought he loved me. He is always telling me he wants me to have his children someday, and I thought we were working things out. I just wanted to talk about the relationship with him, b/c I was hurt when we changed our plan and I gave up my place for him. I wanted to be understanding but I also wanted to know that he loved me and that he would be there for me. Now I desperately want to call him and I am afraid I will make it worse. I am just hoping that he said all those things just out of anger and frustration and they will fade and then he will call. But I am really having trouble not calling him. I keep planning it and planning it....I feel like maybe I am a little crazy, and like I did something wrong, but he was so mad and I couldn't figure out why. I just want him to call. I don't want to forget about him.....

So my bf and I are in an ldr and we are planning to have me move in with him after tax season, for June 1. We met in September. I go up for Easter weekend, to hang out, look at places, we keep fighting and he breaks up with me and sends me home 1 day early. For the next three weeks I am trying to get back together, work things out, I love him so much. After three weeks he comes to see me, spends the weekend with me, we get back together and he agrees to help me move the following weekend ( I gave up my apartment for our moving in plan). We also discuss that I could maybe move to Boston after the summer, and we would get to see each other more 'normally' then. He comes and moves me and everything is nice. After he goes home he is weird with me on the phone over the next few days. The Wed morning he gets mad and hangs up on me and breaks his cell phone. I call his house phone and apologize for making him angry. He calls me a 'callaholic' saying I don't leave things alone and give him enough space. I am sorry but he llives far away and doesn't have email and the only way to talk to him is on the phone. I call everyone I know all the time and it is a bad habit I guess. I try to make plans to see him memorial day weekend and he is not interested, i get upset and we argue a little. Over the next few days he is not really home and I go away with my friends for the weekend. He calls me Mon night, we make up and I make plans to go see him for the following weekend (which was last weekend). As soon as I get up there we start having problems. I don't understand b/c when he comes to see me everything is so great. Fri nite we have a silly misunderstanding at a drive through, and we argue but then make up. Saturday morning he tells me not to go upstairs w/o my shirt on, b/c his mom might be home. I tell him that he always tells me not to go upstairs naked and I am not gonna all of a sudden forget that his mom lives there, I tell him I'm not stupid. Then he gets sulky and lies in bed. I tell him that if he's gonna be grumpy all day I should just go. Then I said, 'i'll wait in the car.' i was just kidding tho. he jumps out of bed and says let's take you home. i get all upset b/c it's an hour to boston and then a 5 hr bus ride home and i just got there. i tell him i'm not going home and he says he's sick of my shit. i call a girl i met in his town to see if she will get me she says ok. he doesn't like that idea and calms down and agrees to try to make the best of it. Sat goes sorta tense, but calmer at nite. He says mebbe we should date and not be bf/gf, i say let's talk about it before i go on sun. Sun i think he'll want me to leave right away but he wants to go to the movies. we go, and then go eat. he is grumpy while eating. then we walk to the bus and i try to talk about the sit. he gets really moody and tells me that we're over and he doesn't know abt the future. i try to hug him and he yells at me. then i walk away. he comes and finds me and tells me i left some stuff in the car. i go to get it and i try again to talk to him, he gets angry and wants to leave, i try to stop him from leaving and he freaks out and runs away. i feel so awful and i want to fix things right away (my big problem). i can't find my wallet, and i want to call him anyway so i call his house twice on the way home. he's not there and i talk to his mom. i wake him up on mon morning and he yells at me 'don't u ever get tired of talking' and hangs up. i am so dumb i call back, and he says 'are you a stalker' and then he hangs up again. i call him that afternoon and he says i can't keep calling him like this, we broke up, i should forget about him, i'm really stupid, i don't get it, he doesn't like me anymore. he asks me if i would be embarrassed if his mom answered the phone and told me not to call anymore. i tell him that i am just trying to understand the situation, i wish he wouldn't be mean to me, i wil be in boston in a few months and we shouldn't slam the door on our situation, i don't want us to be so angry at each other and i want us to be able to talk. he tells me to call him in 3 weeks. i ask him to call me in a few days when he's less angry. he hangs up. i feel so bad, so i call back a litle while later-he picks up the phone and i tell him i feel bad. he says if i felt bad i wouldn't have called. i tell him i feel like we won't ever speak again, he says if i ever call him back then he'll never talk to me again. he hangs up. i still think i left my wallet in his car, so i decide to wait an hour and call back and leave a message reminding him to check for it. i call back and get his mom. i ask her about my wallet first off, and she says that nobody found it and could i please not call the house anymore. she said it's just that it's been so constant. i am so embarrassed and upset i could die. that was on mon evening. for days i've been trying not to call, to understand that my calls are what made him so angry, to respect his wishes and leave him alone, but i want so bad to be on good terms with him. i miss him and love him and it hurts that he got so angry with me when i thought he loved me so much. i feel like i screwed up so bad, and that i should have handled the upper hand better when he wanted to get back together, and i still want to call and try to make up with him. i am hoping that he will call and reminding myself it's only been a couple of days and that he might call. i am afraid his mom amd him will think i'm crazy if i call, and change their # or something and i won't ever have a chance with him. his friends are friends with my roommate, so i am sure i will run into him someday but i miss him so bad, and now i am not sure if i should still move to boston. i gave up my apt b/c i thought we were moving in and now i am not allowed to call him. will he ever call? pls help me, i am trying so hard not to call but now it is the weekend and i will miss him the most.