DN -- this is about the advice you posted -- what you had once given to someone about communicating with the man in her life. I read it today. I have just come through a terrible week of fighting and anger and resentment with my husband. I came online to try and solve my problem -- anger and mis-communication -- and I found your post.
I found what you said so very, very useful. And it helps that it comes from a man. A species I have found difficult to understand. After reading your advice, I realise what I am doing wrong.
It makes me less scared when I see that other women are also in my situation. And I sympathise totally with Free -- the selfishness, the shutting off, the irresponsibility about his share of chores, the anger response when we want understanding.... I break down or I get angry because I want him to reach out to me and SEE that I am in pain... but all I get in return is more anger or just withdrawal. And DN - I have tried saying it in so many words: "Please just hold me or comfort me, that's all I want." it hasnt helped -- he says he can't do it.
It's hard to cope Free, very very hard... Just hang in there and do what I am doing -- read all you can about anger and men and communicating with them..
So, yes, DN -- thanks a ton. It helps, it really does. Let me try doing things your way. If I can.
