I am very hurt, disgusted and don't know what to do or where to turn. I borrowed my husband's laptop for a presentation about 2.5 yrs ago and found some pron sites on it. I exploded (I have an unpleasant past experience with a guy addicted to porn that my husband knows about). He couldn't deny, so we talked and he said it was because he was bored (not working at the time). 6 months ago, I was concerned about some things a neighbor's teenager said (they all came over for dinner and she wanted to chat with her friends online while the adults were talking). So I checked the computer, and it was loaded with visits to porn sites. I asked him, and he denied it, saying the teenage girl did it (right!). She's a 13 year old devout christian sweetheart. So, I added some "spy" software to his PC. He spends about 1hr per day at porn sites (and judging by the descriptions, not your best quality ones - though what would I know). My question is, what should I do? If I confront, I have to admit about the spy software (which we actually discussed the last time, so I'm okay with that) but he will still deny. The only difference now is that he will know that I will know, so he'll use a different computer. He's working now, so boredom is not the issue. The biggest problem is that we haven't had sex in a month, because this whole thing has turned me off him completely. Please help!
