It's a very long story. But I have been seing this Turkish girl that I fell in love 4years ago. We have shared everything together (she's muslim and I'm jewish) we even lost our virginity together. We love each other greatly..
but 2 months ago she broke up with me (yet we couldn't break up either),and one week later started seeing a new Turkish guy. She never cheated or anything. I had made a great deal of mistakes with her, but she had never spoken to me about the problems she had with me so that I could make changes in them (though I had been trying to speak to her about our problems and solve them for last 1yr she wouldn't let me). This new relationship she has compressed 2years of ours into 2months (and it is definitly not like her, as it took 1year to even get a kiss from her). She had originally said she would wait until christmas to make a decision of staying with me or going with him. But in the meantime we weren't speaking, hanging out or really sharing any moments so she was obviously going to be biased, she was already calling him her bf, and parading him around.
In anycase we decided to finally have that talk we should have had 7months ago. We still both know our extreme feelings for each other and said we would enter this talk with objectivity and no decision in our minds. Many of the problems we had that I knew I changed in myself, and made better, and I am willing to change some more things that I know are needed as well (for me). I had also bought a ring for her that she found out about last week.
In any case I don't think she will just walk away from her new bf just to come back. But I would like some advice on this talk, how do I get her to see that I am a great option, that now that we have learned from our mistakes and taken this little break, that it is worth it to continue, and that only good can come out of this. If we start communicating. All of the foundation is there, we are best friends, we love each other, we feel safe and secure with eachother, and now we kknow what we didn't like and liked about each other.
I have tried to have relationships and screwed them all up in the last 2 months.
One other factor is that she is also trying to please her brother and family by being with a Turkish guy (family thing).
I would really appreciate any honest advice. as my heart is broken, and as events that occurred friday show me that I will never be able to hold another relationship like this one again, maybe none for that matter.
