First off, my ex-girlfriend and I had dated for about 8 months. She is 27, and I am 26, and we had a great, mature relationship. We had so much fun together, and we hit it off so well from the beginning. We met when she moved in my apartment building, she actually moved in right above me (I still live below her to this day). We went through last summer and fall as great friends and lovers, always being together since we lived so close. We spent pretty much every night together. I treated her so well, and i gave her many gifts, which she greatly appreciated. I was in love with her, and I was the first to say it (and she reciprocated). Things started getting weird in December, and she started getting distant. I could tell something was wrong. We didnt see each other over Christmas, b/c we both went home, but when we came back, things were still sort of weird. I eventually confronted her about it one night, and she basically told me that she didnt have the feelings for me that i had for her. She told me she wished she hadn't so hastily told me she loved me. She put alot of stuff on me which made me feel like it was my fault. Over the next few days, i wrote her a letter and sent it to her though email at work (which i admit was a bad idea now), but i had to let her know how i felt. Like you would guess, it didnt matter she made up her mind. To make matters worse, she told me that a friend of hers (a guy) was staying with her the next weekend. She said it was only a friend, so i didnt think anything of it since i was so destroyed over the ending of our relationship. Well, lets just say this guy has been at our apartment building pretty much every weekend since then. She obviously jumped right back into another relationship when she was done with me! This made things even worse for me b/c i knew when his car was there since i had to go to the parking lot to get to my car. I was miserable for about a month and a half, but some good friends kept me going forward.
I instituted no contact at the end of January. I have been using it since. She sent me an email on Valentines Day, wishing me a happy day (which i still can't figure out, why would you dump me, then send me a V-day email??), but i ignored it. Then last Tuesday she called me, i didnt answer, but she left a voicemail asking how i was and hoping i was fine. I have not returned the call. I have been pondering calling her back now, though. I am not as miserable as i was, b/c i have gone on a couple of dates with 2 different girls. The problem is, i am not completely over her, and i dont want to call her if it is going to drag me down again.
I also can't say that i do not want her back at all either. My friends say i am crazy since she treated me so badly (all my friend's girlfriends/wives can't believe that a girl would treat ME s like that, they all think i am the greatest guy in the world, and they know how much i did for her), and i can see where they are coming from. I still love her though. Something wants me to think that her phone call to me was her way of showing that she realized she might have made a mistake. Should i just let it be, or should i eventually return her call?
