Divinefuror, your story is similar to mine, but I'm in the side of your g/f, I will share some thoughts.
English is not my mother tongue, so maybe I wil write some mistakes.
Ok, my b/f was 11 years older than me, I'm early 30's he is early 40's, we had a LDR for 1 year.
We visit each other often, the idea was I will move to his country, to live with him, and see how the things work between us (only for 3 months), but I didn't have a visa for work, the money wasn't an issue, but he was so worried that I will not be happy there away from my friends and family, and he work a lot, and also travel a lot, so we will not spend so much time together, I wanted to study english, but he was SOOO worry for me and that I will be alone, not happy, anyway we kept the plans. Then he came to visit me in september to talk about us, and make a decision.
I forget, another thing he said a lot is that he is old for me that I need to be someone younger, also that I am so beautiful for him. I am better looking than him, BUT I DIDN'T CARE, I love him for the way he is.
Ok, so when he came to visit me, I was passing for a really hard stage in my family, my mum had a lump operation we didn't knew about the results, a really close member of my family past away, and more bad things, so I was felling sad, and i said to him I WAS NO SURE about moving...
The next day I was telling him, I wanted to be with him, and asked him to try, and he kept sayng that I will not be happy, and all that stuff.
An he PULLED BACK! Al the next 10 days he was acting distant, he didn't touch me or kiss me the way he used to, he lost his sexual interest in me. So I don't understood the day before he was sexually into me, and the nex day the opossite.
I was so hurted, feeling rejected, regret about saying that I'm not sure.
It was really hard for me, he was cold and distant.
I was trying to convinced him to be together, but it was impossible. So after he left I felt he was distant not the same to me, I waited a month to see if the things work, and I asked him to stop talking...
If you love your g/f let her go, explain to her all your fears, and why you don't want her to come.
Because I think my ex deep inside didn't want me to move with him eiter, so that is why when i said I was not sure he pulled back, and I was feeling regret, and now I think that I don't have to feel regret to told him the way I felt in that moment and instead of gave me suppot me he pulled back, that is not good, but maybe it was the prefect excuse for him.
That is why I'm telling you to talk to you g/f and tell her the truth about your feelings, maybe it will be painfull, but is MUC better to know the truth, because that way you stop wondering, about what was the reason of all this.
Good luck with everything!
