BrianTy

I don't think that it's an attempt at dumping. From what she says its an over cautious thing. She has been the one talking about the future not me. And is getting scared. Everything was fine up to 2 weeks ago when the deep thinking started. About her retirement plans, how she is raising her child, and talk about she and I after she retires...that was her talking!!!

Or is she doing way too much thinking already??? She needs to lighten up!!

Thanks. I will hang in there. I also think that the way we feel about each other deserves a "chance". I think it may be a phase for her? She was great up until the past 2 weeks when she did all this deep thinking!! All this down the road future thinking and I think that it is scary to her, especially since there hasn't been a man in her life for almost 5 years!! A significant other. She needs to deal with it. Do I give her major space? No calls, emails, etc to think?

We have both met each others kids. We actually spend time together the 4 of us. It's crazy...she tells me 2 weeks ago that she is totally into me and committed to me and that she doesn't want anyone else!! Now she says that she feels smothered and she is the one talking future. Then she says just a card for Valentine's Day....she is not big into romance. And we have been totally romantic all along. I think she is testing me????

Thanks! The only thing that concerns me as that she says that I am too good and that she doesn't deserve me. And she goes on to say that she's not good at relationships, etc.

I have been dating a wonderful woman for about 3 and a half months. We are both middle aged, divorced and have one child each. We started very hot and committed to each other after 2 months. She hasn't had a man in quite a few years and was concentrating on her child. Now she has been thinking VERY DEEPLY!! About the future..talking about years down the road, etc. This is ok with me. She now says she is feeling like she needs oxygen! She said she always runs or pushes people away when they try to get close. I know she and I are very serios about each other, I've meet her family and she mine. I think that she is scaring herself?? She has talked about how she has had a plan for her life, and did not think that she would meet anyone...and that I am the best thing that has ever happened to her!! Now she is putting the breaks on to slow way down! I am giving her breathing room! I feel like we have a bright future!! Any ideas? Advice?? Thanks.