artmeus

her intensions seem good... but she is just more open about sexuality then I am...I really think it's just because I grew up very conservative.. And when it comes to sex.. I don't want to share her even in a fantasy .. just my opinion.. maybe i'm being to controlling..and jealous..and that's what I cannot figure out is that I am usually not a jealous person..

Well that's just it,,, i am unsure that she will do this.. being that she has thought about it in the past with her ex.. so I guess i'm alittle hesitant at pursuing this relationship...

Mabye it a my issue of not talking about such fantasies because I very private about things one being sex.. and never had a woman open up like that to me..

I just think my last post says why I am feeling the way (alittle background as to why i feel this way) about her and her fantasy.. and why I feel threatened by this...

ok well - I probably should'nt get too personal about this.. but she mentioned that her and her ex would discuss a possible threesome and very involved in porn,, and they even thinking about putting a sex video on the net.. So yeah I guess im alittle feeling alittle aprehensive of taking this " relationship " to the next level.. because my intention is NOT just a sexual relationship.. If it was just sexual then I would NOT have a problem at all with her fantasy == if that makes sense...

No It actually turned me off.. and thought " is this a relationship or does she just think it's sexual " because I had started to really like her.. and not just sexual like the past girlfriends...

Wow. ok women are more open about sexuality then I thought.. like i mentioned before was married since i wsa 20... and didn't get to experience alot of dating.. the last 4 yrs have just been light dates... nothing serious... I have dated 6 women in the last 4 yrs... but non have been so explicit about this type of sexual fantasy...so yeah it was kind of a surprise... and the women i dated were very sexual...

Yeah I guess that would be a turn on.. I guess need to not have such a double standard...

Yeah ,,, me and my ex-wife had a great sex life.. but fantasies like that were never brought up. My ex-wifes fantasy was Sean Connery... of which didn't threaten me at all... So after hearing this "fantasy" of my girlfriend it was a big surprise..guess I need to date more and learn...

Im 37 - but I am divorced as of 4 yrs ago... I was married when I was 20.. married over 10 + yrs so i didn't have alot of dating nor experience so that's probably why my opinion is so narrow....

Are there any guys out there that would feel alittle threatened If your girlfriend says that her fantasy is to 2 guys.. or am i the only one.. I can't be.. Mind you this is a girlfriend that you care for very deeply... maybe it's a trust issue..

okay good point.. I guess i still feel alittle jealous... Another thing is that I feel that are relationship is now just sexual.. after her fantasy comment.. maybe im insecure about this relationship - guess it's my issue to deal with... from the responses..

Yeah I guess it's a double standard... But i guess it's a whole big world out there and I must have alot to learn... And with my upbringing it was always a no no for girls to talk about that stuff or they were deemed " trashy " but it was ok for us guys to talk about it.. - I know double standard...

Yeah I can't lie - I have thought of having multiple women - kinda like hefner.. But I guess it's culture or maybe the individual.. as I am from a strict catholic background and never heard a woman say that - that i have been with anyway... but i guess I did think ( " trashy" ) just my opinion....

My position - I had a girlfriend that smoked weed.. I don't care for using drugs - maybe a drink on occasion... but her lifestyle finally wore us out... and we did brake up.. I guess it's up to her.. choice. and your being able to cope... It's hard when you begin to care as I did.. but I believe it was worth it in the long run for me... maybe your situation is different....