I've been out of school about 2 years, and we have a senior who got a co-op where I work (she's 3 years younger). I was physically attracted to her, but didn't really act on it because I worked with her and didn't have a good opportunity. But the more we hang out, the more I actually like her...
We went to the company Christmas party the week after Thanksgiving and I sat with her and a mutual (guy) friend who went to the same school. We had fun and went dancing afterwards. When we left, she helped me with putting my jacket on, hugged, and went home.
She said she had fun after the party, and setup a party at a club the second week of December for her school friends and invited 4 of the younger people we work with. 2 of the guys are married with newborns, 1 was away on business, which left me.
I went to the place after another party and met up with her and 5-6 of her friends. We did the group dancing thing for a while, and her friends slowly went home leaving me, her and a friend of hers (guy) that didn't have a ride home. We started grinding and kept that up for almost an hour, while her friend just kind of stood there dancing by himself. She kept grabbing my hands, squeezing them, and moving them around her hips/stomach. Then she started making comments how people all around us were making out. She pointed this out 4 or 5 times. When I went to make a move, I got bumped into and we effectively butted heads.
I asked her if she wanted to grab something to eat (it was about 1am) and she said yeah. When we left she was going to drop the other guy off, but he said he was hungry too. We got the coat check, and she gave me her jacket to put on her. We went to a diner, got milkshakes, hugged, and went our separate ways.
Last week I scheduled it so the two of us would be at a work thing from 4am to 1pm. (Yeah, I feel slightly 'wrong' for doing this). We basically had to supervise something, and didn't have much to do. We talked and had fun for the few hours. We were talking with a guy from the client for awhile, and he was telling us how he was in the army. The girl I'm interested in noted that her boyfriend is also in the army. I found out later from a 3rd party that he owes 6 years and will be away until then. This was the first time I really heard her mention him.
After work she wanted to get dinner (at 2pm since we woke up so early) and we went to get some food. It definitely 'felt' like more of a date than hanging out with a friend or someone from work.
A few days ago, I ask what she's doing for Christmas and she said she's going out of town to meet her boyfriend. During lunch, with another co-op there, we talked about what we all still had to buy for X-mas. She had no idea what to get her boyfriend, so the conversation kind of lingered on that.
So my problem is, I don't know what to do....
I know her boyfriend will be away for at least 3 years, with them seeing each other every other month at most. (I was previously in a similar relationship, and don't think it'll actually last). She was also telling a mutual friend that she was unsure if she wanted to stay with him.
She's given me signs that, if I didn't work with her, I would have asked for her number (which I have anyway because of work).
She'll only be working with me until February, and I'm rarely in the office, so awkwardness at work isn't a huge deal.
So, what do I do? I know we'll end up going out again at some point. I could just bite the bullet at lunch one day, or try to go dancing again, or happy hour, or I could do nothing.
While I've been dating other girls, it's not the same. When I'm with her, my head (and stomach) feels like it's going to fracture.