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Ok a little update! Ok so i was talking to one of my buddys, that went on the trip to pick up our militay buddys, about it and he said he had something that was eating him and he had to tell me. So he contenued to tell me that she pretty much broke up with me for one of the friends that she went to pick up from boot camp. He said the whole time they were there they were out of town they were flurting and he does not know what else. My buddy said that he is discusted with those 2 for doing that to me. And another thing i found out that she lied to me. I asked her to tell me truthfully right when we broke up that had she cheated on me or drinks. She replied that she did not cheat on me but she did drink. We had a promise that if either one of us drank that it was over between us. So she lied to me about that and i am just in awww that she cheated on me too( i consider it cheating). So i am not really upset any more i am just really pissed off and cant believe that happened. I cant wait till the militay man leaves for iraq in the first of the year. I will tell you guys one thing that when she comes crawling back to me that i am going to be laughing( well not really but you guys get the point lol). Well every one thanks for the help once again!! O ya, I am doing the NC now and strictly inforcing it! and its not as bad as i thought.

Well i have decided that i am just going to stop talking to her gradually. She keeps trying to talk to me and i try to say less and less to her that i can. Most times i try not to message her back but she makes me feel bad and it makes start talking to her again. So i think i am just going to start saying that i am busy when ever she messages me and not message her back. Another thing that she does is play the guilt thing on me too. She always makes me feel bad for her even though she broke up with me. She always tries to do that when ever i am talking to her. What should i do about that? Thank you guys so much for all the help!! UPDATE: Well i just got word from her that she is supposily moving in the begaining of next year because her parents cant afford the house and her parents are splitting up. So she is really upset now and i dont know about how to go about this. Thanks Again!

As you read below It goes completely oposite of that what you said. But just read and see what you think. Ok this is an update. Well I have been trying to stay calm mature and nice to her. So when ever she text me or messaged me I would support her and be very calm and mature about the whole thing. I started doing that last night. So this morning I decided to write her a note asking for the stuff I wanted back and I included a note. The note just said that I wanted to thank her for all the good times we shared and for helping me become the man that I am today and just really nice stuff. I told her that she is beautiful and don’t let any one say other wise and told her to be safe and careful and not get too wild and I also ended the note with one of my favorite quotes "Life ain’t always beautiful, but it’s a beautiful ride" from a Gary Allen song. After she read the note, we talked and as I was, doing the same as before being calm and mature and she told me that she thanks me for being so nice to her and “Killing her with kindness” even though she thought that she did not deserve it after she hurt me a lot. She also said that I was a good person and she liked it when I talked to her like that and to never change being the person that I am. So I don’t know if that letter helped, do you guys think I did the right thing? I talked to my other friends that are girls and they said that was very kind to do and it was the right thing to do. So I am hoping you guys think so too, THANK YOU GUYS SO MUCH!

I have been trying to keep busy. I hung out with my buddy and went to his game tonight and had some fun and it kept my mind off of her. I zstoped texting her and she stopped texting me for the rest of the night so far. Its weird though she has a curfew of 11 and it is past 11 here like by an hour and she is still not home. Thats been happening for the like 3 days owell. Thank you guys so much you all made me feel better about the whole thing. I miss her still but not as much. I think if i keep expressing how i feel on here and getting your guys help make me feel better so THANK YOU.

I have been trying to stay busy. I have been running( I usually dont) and being with my family more. I really dont have any one else to lean on because her friends were my friends and alot of them dont want to pick sides because they like use both so they are staying out of it. Well i have been trying to separate my self from her but like i said earlier she keeps messaging me and its hard to stay away from talking to her. I am trying to let her realize the mistake she made because i know that NO one will treat her like gold the way i did. Thank you guys for all the help i am feeling better. I think by just getting out how i felt helped me.

Wow that was great Scout. I want to give her that freedom but i just cant push my self to do so. She has been such a big infuance and part in my life that it is hard for me to push away something i love. I am tring my hardest to try to give her that room but she keeps sending me messages making me want to talk to her and it reminds me of the old times that i had with her. I am trying to give her the space what she wants but she wont let me. I know the saying "the grass is greener on the other side" and your right i dont want to explore right now all i want is for her to be back. But i want to do what is right and i think if i just give her room that it will make her miss me. Thank you for that reponce you made me feel better and that i am doing the right thing by trying to give her space. Thanks

Hi every one I am new to this site and I need some advice on what to do (Sorry about the long post in advanced). My girlfriend broke up with me 2 days ago and I have been feeling horrible and down. I feel lost and just down right depressed about the whole thing. Let me give you guys a little back round to what happeneds. I grew up with this girl. She was my kinder garden sweet heart as her mom puts it. She lived right accross the street from her so she was the girl next door that every one dreams about. She has been my best friend since we were 5 years old (I am 20 yrs old now and she is 18 ) we were un-separatable any where we go we were together and we spent every minute with each other. We could not live with out each other. Every time we fought we would make up few hours then we would be back laughing again and falling in love again. So about a year and a half ago we decided to take it up to the next level and be boyfriend and girl friend and it has been nothing but good until the last weeks. We were not the partier type of people and always kept to our selves and to a small group of friends. About 2 weeks before we split up she went to a party and had a great time and met a lot of new people and I was happy for her but when she got home the next day a lot of guys kept calling her and sending her text messages. I would ask who is that and she kept on saying don’t worry about it and there just friends I met at the party so I trusted her and put it aside. From there on we were fine until she went out of town to watch our friends graduate from boot camp. I did not go because I had to much school work to do so she went with her twin sister and one of my other good friends. Well when she got back I took off work just to surprise her at the air port and to take her home. We were cool and happy to see each other. We got back to her house and her other friend said you ready to go after like 30 min and I was like what? She did not tell me that she was going to party and I could not go because it was "girl’s night". So I was not happy because I was going to be alone for the night but I still walked out along with them and said bye and my girl friend pulled me aside and said “Sorry I forgot to tell you. I promised I would go with her. Are you ok? I replied with “I though we were going to see you tonight since I have not seen you for a few days” and she interrupted me and said “sorry got to go” I was kind of pissed off because I had the night planned out for us and since she left I had nothing to do, so I just went to bed. Well the next morning I was expecting a text message saying I am sorry but I did not get it, I did not get anything from her even after I sent her one. Then finally at 3 she said hi and we talked for a bit and she seemed kind of mad. I could not get out of her what was the matter so I left it like it was then later that night she started talking to me weird accusing me of still being mad about the last night and I was not and she kept on going at it saying i was. Then the fight began. Then out of no where she told me “I had so much fun at the parties and that she missed the word "fun"”. I responded with a big what are you talking about? She replied “When I am with you I never get to go out and have fun because you get mad at me for leaving you alone”. I replied with “No I do not and you know that I don’t. I was just mad last night because I did not get to see you and I had the whole night planned for us.” We kept on arguing like that for an hour and she finally said that she “wants to have the word “fun” back in her life again and she can’t have fun when she is with me because I get mad”. I tried to pull the sorry route to make her stop because I love this girl to death and I did not want things to end but it did not work. Later on she continued to say that she wants space and that’s where I started to break down. So she broke up with me and I am lost confused depressed and every thing else associated with that. I really don’t have hardly friends to lean on because my friends were her friends and her friends were mine because we were so close so that left me with nothing really. Now that I don’t have my best friend and the woman I love any more I feel empty, worthless and it feels like I am missing a huge part of me. I miss her so much and don’t know what to do. This is where I need help. I just don’t know what to do with my self any more. Every thing I do reminds me of her and makes me upset. I don’t feel like eating or doing anything else. How can I cope with this and make me feel better because right now I feel really down. THANK YOU GUYS SO MUCH IN ADVACED!