I have been with my girlfriend in a long distance relationship for almost 4 months now. We knew each other since high school (that was 10 years ago) and few months back we started catching up online and hit it off really well. The first couple of months were fantastic, we would talk everyday on MSN and she would call me (I was in Canada and she in India) often and so did I. But then she started business school and since then the communication between us has been kinda low. She has a highly busy lifestyle and rarely gets time to come online/call. So, in-order to compensate, i end up staying up late to find her online or make phone calls. But recently, I have seen the following problems emerging :
1) She constantly tells me that I should tell her everything frankly (i.e. any problem or issues I have). But whenever I come up with an issue, she gets really upsets and starts saying things like 'I am not making you happy.. ', 'this relationship is not working..', 'you have a hundred and one problems with me..'. When thats not the case at all, I love her completely and whenever I frame my issues in the most comfortable and natural way as possible.
2) She does'nt make any phone calls. Its a long distance relationship over quite a big distance and I feel that its only fair to share the phone expenses.. But this entire relationship, I have been the only one calling most of the times. When I ask her to call me, she makes some excuse like 'ill buy a calling card next week (which obv. never comes)', 'something's wrong with my credit card', 'my account is empty i don't have money (at the start of the relationship she said she has saved a huge chunk of money and she would stay fair in communcation).
Right now I am confused. At one end I don't want to be the guy who constantly demands things from her girlfriend (like her being online when she is busy with her school, unwarranted phone calls). But at the same time, I feel I don't get a fair hearing to my problems or some issues are not being fairly dealt with (like the phone one). I have talked to her solemnly about all this but half the time she makes excuses and other half she gets irritated and says I am suffocating her. Where am I wrong/right? Help!
