I have reached the crossroads of deciding to divorce or stay in my marriage, and could use some advice....
I have been married for 7 years to a highschool friend. We have two boys together (one with moderately severe ADHD who requires alot of special help). This information is important because I have a husband with a gambling addiction. In the last 6-8 months (or longer) he has spent 10,000 dollars on his problem, going as far as to take money away from our 401K as well as from our youngest son's college fund. All the while asking me to work more to pay the bills. I was such an idiot to believe that we had such financial problems. When after working 80 hours a week and not understanding why our accounts kept dwindling, I started investigating our records and was shocked to see what was going on. I confronted him and he agreed to stop gambling, but in the last week he has gone out and played in tourneys with his friends. He says his gambling on-line got out of control, but does not think he has a problem.
This is only one of our problems. Additionally, when I was looking into our financial situation, I found that he was looking at pornographic websites routinely. My children were in the house as he was doing this. I don't think they saw anything, but to think that he was doing this infuriates me and turns me off to him. He says I am not a good wife because I don't engage in sex more frequently, but I am tired and stressed. Between the huge number of hours I work, the kids and the house, I don't have much energy for anything else. I should mention that he is complaining of my lack of physical involvement just after I had a hysterectomy!!! Really not allowed to do that right now. regardless, why should I when all he does or cares about is sex and gambling? He is of no help when it comes to the children, especially the one with ADHD. (BTW, he has ADD which explains the gambling and the inability to help with our son,but he won't seek help for that either).
Throughout our amarriage, I have given him EVERYTHING he ever wanted, when is it my turn? What do I do?
Thanks for listening.