hi everyone, im new here and need advice, its pretty long so i applogise now in advance.
we have been together for four years, living together for almost 2. due to unforeseen cercumstances i have to move away, and it will mean a 30 min plane journey to see each other.
anyway a month or so aga we were tlking about what would happen between us when i leave, my man told me he had been thinking and was willing to give up his job, and in march he would move to be with me.
although my man was willing to give up his job, he isnt willing to give up his house ( i have always known this and i understand his reasons for not wanting to lose it), so the plan was to move over to me, have a life together and continue how we are now.
the thing is, my man owes his parents a fair bit of money, ten thousand pounds. they lent him the money 5 years ago to help with the deposit on his house, and it was the agreement that he will pay it back when he can.
anyway my man told his parents that he was moving away in march to be with me, all of a sudden they turned round and said if he is leaving they want their money before he leaves, and they also want interest that they paid to clear the loan they got, all this is understandable, so basically my man has to raise 14 thousand pounds in 5 months if we are living together.
we have talked about it over the last 2 days and my man says he cant see a light at the end of the tunnel, he doesnt see a future for us anymore, he makes 14 thousand pounds in a year at work so there is no way he can pay them the money beore i leave, so i suggested being together long distance until we can pay this money back. my man cant see us working long distance after living together.
there is no way his parents would accept monthly payments they want it all at once, so the chance of him paying it back in less than 5 plus years isnt going to happen.
as we stand we cant agree on going long distance or saying goodbye, i dont want to lose this guy, how do we get through all this and still be us at the end of it?
