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it wasnt the actual used condom, it was just the wrapper if that makes a difference. I know you are right he does sound shady. I dont want to be naive. But i still feel as though i cannot accuse him of anything. What if everything he is saying is true...

We usually have a very good relationship. We do alot together, and like i said, im usually there everynight. We havent really ever talked about him using a condom when he beats off, its not our usual conversation, but it didnt seem sincere to me because when i first confronted him, he seemed unsure of the answer and then had to confirm it again today when i talked to him because he said he was thinking about it all day and he gave me a shady answer the night before. Its really hard for me right now. im very torn. I know that there is no real way to find out if anything is going on. His other roomate, is a very good kid. Im thinking of asking his personally because i feel as though he might tell me. It is my boyfriends best friend, but i am really close with him also. Its just, whenever im there, she is there too. And i feel as though any girl would not want to be around some guy that she is having sex with and hid girlfriend. But that could just be me. I need help, please. I dont know how to handle this or confront any of them. Ive talked to him already, and he always says the same thing. "you really have no trust in me"...and makes me feel guilty about it. its just such a hard situation

Thank you everyone so much. your advise is definitly helping. I dont know what to do. The police report sounds the most logical and i did consider that. I feel as though he knows i would never have the nerve to ask her something so personal. Because if it is true, how is that my place to file a police report. I did talk to him about it. And he goes off on the fact that i dont trust him. Today i just talked to him and he apologized for acting weird when i asked about a condom wrapper in his room that i know me and him never used. He told me again that he used it is to beat off. I just dont know. I feel horrible because i dont trust him, and he could have actually been telling the truth. But, i dont know how else to find out if everything is true. The other thing is. The roomate who supposidly raped this girl, has gone home for about 3 weeks this past month. Right after she told him about the rap, he had already left. It was very random, and he pays 600$ a month to live in a house that he is barely even at?...thats another reason why i started to believe it. Also, i do talk to her, we are friends and i have seen her since. At first i thought she was acting weird around me, but i could just be nervous about the situation in general.

okay, i havee two problems i am a little concerned about. First off, hello to everyone here at enotalone your posts are very helpful! I hope i can offer the same. I have been with my new boyfriend for 3 months. Okay, it sounds like nothing, but we have been "seeing"eachother for the past 5 summers. his family has a house near mine. But, this summer he decided to move here. He lives with 3 boys and 1 girl who are all his best friends. The girl, he has hooked up with before. She is not very attractive at all, and when they did hook up he told me he was disgusted and they were both drunk. This was way before me and him decided to be together. Recently, i was at his house and she came home drunk out of her mind. She threw up all over herself, stripped down naked in the kitchen and was screaming "i want to have sex" yeah, i know what your thinking, DISGUSTING. But, anyways. She went upstairs, where her room is and invited some boy over. When he got there he realized how drunk she was and left. She blamed my boyfriend and said he told the kid to leave. Meanwhile, she is yelling at him saying how bad she needs to have sex. So, he is at the bottom of the stairs and says, "dont worry you still will" and winks at her. I didnt take it seriuosly i thought he was kidding obviosly. I was standing right there im pretty sure he knew i saw what he said. But then, about an hour later. We were all downstairs and she was upstairs in her room. She started calling my boyfriends name to go upstairs to talk to her. He went. For a while i could hear them talking, but the TV was really loud so i couldnt here them good. I started to get a really bad feeling in my stomach and thought that something was happening. I turned the TV all the way down and couldnt hear anything upstairs. I thought i was going to throw up. They were upstairs for almost 45 minutes. When he came down he knew i was mad and didnt say 1 word about it. So, i told him i was going to bed. I went in his room, and left the door open so i could here what he was saying to his other roomate. His roomate was like * * * are you thinking, and he said shutup ill tell you what happened in the morning. So i basically thought i had it confirmed that something happened. I ran out of the room and got my stuff to leave. He freaked out and followed me outside. I started crying and he didnt get what i was upset about. Then, he continued to tell me that she was talking to him about something that happpened to her. He started to cry a little bit. and he told me that she said that their other roomate raped her. I know it sounds horrible but i dont know if i believe him. I told him i did because i felt horrible that if it was true how could i accuse him of cheating on me when he just foung out his roomate was raped by his bestfriend. But, my stomach still gets sick when i think about it, and part of me doesnt believe him. The other night there was an open condom raper in his drawer that he said he beat off with, which got me suspicous again that he is sleeping with his roomate. Please help me. I dont know what to do. The thiing is, im alwayyyys at his house, i sleep over at least 4 times a week. She knows he loves me. I just dont know. im so confused