Hi everyone!
I've been going out with my girlfriend for 2.5 years. Before that I'd only had one serious relationship, which lasted about a year. I'm now 27. I've obviously spent alot of time single and as such I've got used to looking at porn on the internet for entertainment. We're talking about twice a week, possibly more.
When I started going out with my girlfriend I stopped looking on the internet - this was VERY difficult for me but I thought it was worth it. Then one day at work (I work from home so don't worry) about a year ago I decided to have a look at some porn. I didn't DO anything other than look. But my girlfriend found out about this and all but split up with me.
Since then there have been three more occasions when I have looked at porn on the internet. Each time my girlfriend has found out and tried to split up with me. Each time we've ended up staying together but with my knowing we'll split up if I do it again. Each time I have stopped looking altogether, for a while. Then I've looked again and been found out.
However, after the last time I told myself I'd put a stop to it and I haven't looked at anything since - for probably four months I think? But yesterday I was looking round youtube and followed some links to hot babes and bikini babes or similar. I didn't think anything of it because youtube is sensored - there can't possibly be anything on there for my girlfriend to get upset about, or so I thought.
My girlfriend found out and she has split up with me - I didn't look at porn but I DID look at girls and that is what upsets her. But we live together so she'll be home tonight and it's all a bit messy. I love her sooo much and I don't want to lose her just because I was stupid and thought that looking at girls on youtube was different to looking anywhere else. So basically my questions are:
Have I completely messed it up? Will I ever get her back?
Why do I find it so difficult to stop looking and what can I do to make myself stop? Am I abnormal in wanting to look or is this just something guys do?
Is the real issue that I have repeatedly betrayed her trust? Is there anyway I can rectify this?
Thanks in advance and hoping there is some way my girlfriend and I can work this out.