Hi there, I'm new to the forum, here is my story:
My wife and I have been married for almost 1 year, she is 23 and I'm 28. We have been together (including dating) for 3.5 years now.
2 months ago she mentioned that someone at work had been flirting with her, and she kind of liked it. She expressed that if he tried to kiss her she might not be able to stop herself from reciprocating. Both of us agreed that starting sept 1 when we had health insurance, she and i would seek couples counselling and she would have individual therapy. She promised to avoid this person at work.
3 weeks ago I found a suspicious email that led me to strongly believe that she had recently had an affair. When confronted she said that she had oral sex with this man at work 2 days before. Upon further investigations on her computer, I found that she and this man had engaged in unprotected vaginal sex instead of oral sex. When confronted she denied this, but then revealed the truth when I threatened to call the other party and check with them.
Since then both of us have been in individual therapy and also in couples therapy. She has sworn to tell me the truth about things and wants to try and make our relationship work. She has no further contact with this person.
1.5 weeks ago I discovered that she had just started a secret myspace account with a secret email address. In this account she was pretending to be an 18 year old high school student living in the same part of town as her lover (colombian part of town) and with a profile title of "cutie with bootie". She invited both guys and girls to be her friend, she only messaged a few people. The photos and profile info were copied from someone else's profile.
One of the few people she messaged (all guys) was a young columbian guy who she said looked cute, and she introduced herself as new in town. It didnt go any further than that before I confronted her about it.
She says she wanted to see what it was like to be another person. She didnt plan on having any kind of relationship with anyone, just wanted to talk through myspace. To me it feels like she is not being faithful, why did she need to have this be a secret if nothig was wrong with it?
What should I do? I'm thinking of leaving her for good.
-PredForte
