concerned-mum

hi thankyou both for your quick replies, mummytoanangel, no i wouldnt think he has it because 99 per cent of the time he is good as gold, no trouble, mild manered, polite, good grades at school etc, southerngirl, i dont think he is being hit, he has no bruises at all, no marks etc, i have asked why he doesnt want to see dad but he is reluctant to even talk about him. it all came all of a sudden, he was fine with dad, then all of a sudden it has gone to this which makes me think that something has happened.

hi everyone, im looking for some advice regarding my son and his dad. i was with my sons dad for 6 years altogether, and i left him almost 4 years ago,the relationship just fizzled out. my son is 7 years old, and over the last few months i have noticed a big change in my son around his dad and it is starting to worry me. a few months ago i was getting my son ready to go to his dads flat on a friday as usual (he usually see`s him once per week at the weekend) all of a sudden my son started crying saying he didnt want to go to his dads (this was more than a tantrum, i just knew.) i told my son its ok and that he was only going for an hour like usual, but he was adament that he didnt want to go, so i called his dad and told him to come for him the week after. the week after came and as soon as my son woke up on friday he told me he was ill and that he couldnt go to his dads, i asked what was wrong and he told me he was sick, he didnt have a temperature and he seemed fine so i sent him to school as usual, i asked his teacher at home time and she said he had been fine. it has now got to the stage where he will make up any excuse in the book not to go to his dads, ranging from being sick, being bored when he is with his dad, he has got into a rage and told me he hates me for taking him to his dads. i called his dad to talk about it and said it was best if my son didnt go for a while and he agreed. it has got to the point now where i am noticing the changes in my son, he is very clingy (he never was before), he keeps asking me if i will be there to pick him up from school (i always have, and i have never been late), its like he is looking for reasurrence?, he is losing his once brilliant appertite, he hardly eats a thing now, he wont speak to his dad on the phone, he is very insecure, my son keeps saying he is useless, he has sudden mood swings involving anger, fear and withdrawal, he seems to have this fear of his father that only started to arrise a few months ago. i have tried talking to my son about it all and why he doesnt like to be around his dad, as soon as i said i needed to talk about his dad he covered his face with his hands which i found very odd. as a for instance, my son was being a little naughty the other day and i said to him, ok i cant handle it anymore im taking you to your dads for an hour, he threw himself on the floor, tears going down his face...please mummy dont take me there i promise i will be a good boy..dont take me there with him... im getting very worried about all this, can anyone please tell me what may be going on as i am on the verge of going to the doctor or something because certain things are coming into my head that i dont want to be thinking about