elisesmit

Yes, I agree that there is a big difference between sex and relationships. The odd thing is though that he has sex with guys but doesn't really forge relationships with them. In fact, his (and my) closest friends treat us like we're dating, and we are both aware that we are, practically speaking, in a dating like relationship emotionally speaking (which is dysfunctional in itself, I know, but I'm not sure what to do about it because it just sort of gradually happened and I don't want to lose him as a friend completely because his friendship is important to me. Any insight on how to handle that situation would be helpful as well).

This will probably be long, but any insight would be appreciated. I will start by saying that I am a straight female whose best friend is a gay guy. I am wondering if perhaps he may be a bit bisexual (and yes, I will admit that this question is in large part motivated by the fact that I have, unintentionally, and against my better judgment fallen for him). I have no desire to delude myself, I can be happy either way, and just want him to be happy and comfortable as well. But here is why I think there may be a possibility beyond my wishful thinking: - I know that he believes that sexuality is a spectrum (as in people are not usually completely hetero or homosexual). - He has made out with girls (which I really don't put much weight on because nearly every gay guy I know does that). - There are elements of sexual tension in our relationship - On New Years Eve he was very drunk and grabbed me out of the blue and french kissed me - He has also (albeit drunk on all occasions, so put what weight on that you will) grabbed my chest, butt, ran his hand down my body while kissing my cheek, begged me to kiss him and when I turned my cheek for him to kiss kissed me repeatedly trying to get to my mouth - I know that there have been one or two girls in his past who he has said he would happily have sex with and has been sexually attracted to - He has told a mutual friend of ours (though I am not sure of the context at all) that he would have sex with me - I also know that when we go out together he often pretends we are a couple (though I don't honestly read a lot into this I think there are other reasons behind this) - More than one of my friends has mentioned to me (unsolicited, I haven't talked about any of this with my friends) that they think he may be a bit bisexual (partially they think this because he is masculine, and is stereotypically "male" in a lot of ways). So, I'm not sure, and I know no one else can say for sure, but I was just wondering what insight people had. Do you think this is just normal 20-something figuring himself out experimenting? Should I do anything (I wouldn't do anything drastic like come out and tell him I was interested in him or anything like that, but I would maybe try to feel out his thoughts on bisexuality more)? What are your thoughts?