I hope this is the right place to put this if not let me know where it goes. Ok my story (may be long) Almost three years ago I met a guy where I worked. We became good friends fast. Then he asked me out, we dated for almost 6 months. I fell in love with him and thought he felt the same, at the time he was getting his devorce finaliesed and I knew this may be a hard relationship but I was ready to try. More things made this relationship hard is the fact that both of us are sufering from depression as well. Well after 6 months of seeing each other he started to pull away from me then one night he said that he was not sure what he wanted any more. I understand his feeling this way after all he has been through (his X and not getting to see his son because of her) even though it was hard I said ok and we went back as friends, I just loved him in silence. I left that job not long after because of the contract ran out that I was on. Not having that job did not bother me near as bad as not going to see him every day (the job was in MO and I live in IL) ever since he called it off I spend most of my time crying and my depression has gotten worse. We still e-mail and use IM and he gave me his Address, but it has now been almost two years since I have heard his voice let alone seen him. Its killing me and I don't know what to do, he has been having more problems with his depression as well so I feel like I can't tell him that one of the resons I am so depressed is that I can not remember what his voice sounds like. I think that is what hurts me the most right now its like I am losing him altogether. And do to his depression he some times goes into hiding and does not come on line for weeks at a time sometimes its months at a time. I worry a lot about him he has tried to kill himself once alredy I don't think I could make it if he did do that. I am a single mom and in the 3 years I have knowen his he has been like a dad to my daughter, he has her pic in his wallet and tells every one that he has three kids his tow boys and my daughter. and even now when he IMs me some times he brings up how good we where together so its like he still thinks of me that way, but then he goes away again and I am left on my own again. My heart hurts so bad I miss him, they way we where but most of all I miss him for the friend his was to me. I have not just lost my love I have lost my best friend. I don't know what to do still tell him I love him with every email and message I send. I am not ready to give up on him I don't think I could do that even if I had to but I am afraid that if all this goes on much longer I may have a braek down. Can any one help me with what I should do.
Lost and crying