Tierra

I might casually mention it tonite if he happened to find anyone to work on his house. I would love to paint his walls pink! and have cat stuff all over! I don't have the money to do that though, and he would kill me! I would really like for us to both decorate his house, that way it will feel more like its my home too, not just his home. I can just see him finally getting someone to work on the house once I move in. I just wish he would of done it before I moved in. You're right though...he really isn't lifting a finger to make it livable for me. It's frustrating because I know he really cares about me. Heck, his first plans in the house was to have the upstairs bathroom done for me.

Getting an apartment out there was in my mind. I don't know what are good areas/bad areas to rent in, in that city. I was thinking that I could just move in with him long enough to get my full-time job then start looking for my own place if I couldn't stand living in a bedroom. I don't know if I could rent a place with no job, that's why I say I would move in first, then get a job and start checking out places.

Ugh no! I definatly don't want to wait around for him all day in the house. I'd rather be going off and doing something. It's just going to be hard for me until I can learn where things are at.

At the end of the month I will be moving in with my boyfriend. We've been seeing each other just over a year now. Right now he lives 6.5 hours away from me. I can't wait to see him, I want to be with him...but I'm also scared. I'm leaving all my family, friends and everything I've known behind. I quit my full time job so I can pack up my apartment and take a little time off. This move is a big deal to me. My main concern is the living conditions. His small house has pretty much been gutted and is waiting to be redone. Imagine this...1 bathroom with a shower and toilet in the basement and 1 small finished bedroom where he sleeps, is the only thing in the house. There are wood frames around but no drywall up. There is no kitchen...no fridge, stove, microwave or cabinets. There is no furniture but his bed...that means no couch, kitchen table, tv. ....*sigh* He says its all in storage and he hates to bring it all in while the house is being redone. Thing is...no one is working on the house! He keeps saying he needs to find someone to finish his house, but he hasn't! He knew I was moving in with him since July and its Sept. now. His living situation doesn't bother him because he has gotten used to it. He works alot so he's not home. He says he works long hours because no one is there waiting for him. If he did have someone there, he wouldn't work all day. I sure hope that's true. I'm getting scared that I'll be miserable in his unfinished house. He can go to his shop and be in his place doing what he likes (he loves his job, working on cars) and get his alone time. I don't want to go to his shop and get in his hair all the time since he is trying to work. But what will I do? I figure I'll get a part-time job until I can find a decent paying full-time job. So I work, then go home to an empty house with nothing in it..not even a tv. I have a tv, but he doesn't even have cable hooked up. I imagine myself sitting all alone with my cat in this empty house crying. It has kept me up for the last couple nites. I start to cry when I think about it. I tried mentioning to him that I won't have anything there, but he doesn't seem to get it. I know its easy to say just don't move out there. I just found out about a week ago that the guy that was supposed to be working on his house, hasn't. I pratically have my foot out the door waiting to move. I told my landlord this was my last month living here. I quit my job already. Most of my stuff is packed away. If I'd known sooner his house was still gutted out, I wouldn't of quit my job yet and all that stuff. What am I supposed to do? I'm in love with this guy, but I'm scared I'll be miserable with the living conditions. I won't have any gf's to hang out with to get me out of the house. I don't have any hobbies to keep me busy because I can't find something I'm interested in. I won't have anywhere to go to just get away because I don't know my way around. If anyone has any ideas, please share! Thanks