This may be a really immature topic, but I thought I'd give it a shot.
Some background...
I've been in my first relationship for a couple of years now... and things have gone well until March (except for a thing in December where he wanted to spend christmas alone playing his videogames instead of spending it with me). Things were really hectic for him around the Feb-March timeframe because he lost his job and the transmission in his car went... all kinds of financial messes. He found a new job where a group of females convinced him to breakup with me. (I'm not positive of why they did such a thing. I don't know them and never did anything to them.) He said some horrible things about and to me, but I forgave him and took him back a week or two later when he changed his mind.
the past few months have been fine up until a couple weeks ago.
Last year he got a computer game that we planned on playing together... however he starting telling me how bad I was at playing and such so I grew to hate that particular game.
We've had arguments in the past about the game because when he invites me over he's on it and I'm stuck watching him play it from the couch. his television doesn't work so I don't have any other options. I'd rather not drive all the way back home because he lives kind of far (I usually spend the night.). He doesn't get off of it when I ask him to, instead he says:
"Why? So I can sit by you and be bored with you?"
or he tells me that I'm ridiculous for being jealous of a game.
So I'm not really sure what to do.
He does go on breaks... like he probably hasn't played the game for three months or so, but he just picked it up again.
Here's where I got heated up...
Earlier this week he suggested that we go out to the movies.
Later he found out that he couldn't afford to go because he still had to pay his phone bill... Instead he invited me over, which is just fine.
Well, when I got there
he was installing the -newly bought- expansion to the game.
I don't mean to sound shallow...
It isn't the movie that I'm upset about.
It's that he has other priorities, such as a phone bill, but he just spent $50 on a game.
Not only that,
but he told me he wanted to go to college really badly, but he was upset that he couldn't afford it.
Well, I paid the tuition for him and gave him that opportunity... but I did not buy his books.
Instead he's spending his money on a game.
I feel like I'm going to regret paying for his schooling.
I don't know... Am I just being unreasonable?
So anyway,
I was pissed off (but I didn't let him know I was) so I told him I was going to take a walk.
About an hour later I was returning back feeling 100x better, when I see him storming out of the house and up to me.
He was PO-ed because I forgot my cell phone and he saw an ambulance come into the neighborhood... He also said something like
"I was worried sick. You can't walk ten minutes without panting, I don't know how you managed an hour"
(which really insulted me since I ride my bike 5 miles a day, and that night I walked three... I'm not out of shape... ... He's a foot taller than I am or more so when he walks fast I have to sort of jog to keep up so I think that's where he got it from? And... there was one time I asked him to take a walk with me... but he ended up walking 20-40 feet ahead of me.)
anyways...
I tried to shrug off his attitude and we went inside.
When we got inside he kept glaring at me, so I asked him why he was throwing such a fit? and that it was an accident that I forgot my cell phone. I also apologized for even forgetting it.
He told me to drop it but... I persisted
because his negativity was really bringing me down and I wanted to make it better.
He then started yelling at me and said something like:
"I don't want to hear your tales of woe!"
which, I don't quite understand... I was just asking him why he was so angry with me.
He then said he would feel better in the morning and went to sleep. I stayed up all night thinking... which is never a good thing because it makes me more angry or upset.
Because he thinks I blow things out of proportion, he told me I shouldn't talk to my friends about my problems.
which seems to make me break down really easily... and apparently I can't go to him either because he doesn't want to hear it... which leads me to say I really don't know why I'm posting this, I just have to get this off of my chest and have someone listen to me.
The other night, after he turned off the game, he called me to say Goodnight.
I hadn't heard from him in two days (that's another thing... If I call him he's always "busy" playing the game so I'm not really allowed to.).
He then said "I love you" before hanging up and I basically denied it...
so now he isn't talking to me at all... I totally regret that.
I called him today (god forbid..) because I was going to buy him a pair of pants, but he was in no mood for speaking to me.
-sigh-
I don't know what to do.
I remember in March, before he broke up with me, I tried to get him to compromise over something (can't remember what) and he said that he doesn't compromise for anyone.
I guess it's pointless maybe to let the relationship last any longer?
I'm pretty upset by this and don't really want to end it, but I feel like I need to. I'm getting bored with his behavior and his lack of motivation. I don't feel completely satisfied, as if I'm there only for his convenience.
I wish I knew how he felt, but he gets so angry while trying to discuss something simple with me.
Does anyone have suggestions for bringing problems up without sounding too accusing?
Let me know,
am I over reacting?
EDIT: holy crap that was long XD Sorry.